Reddit-style advice post (size edition)
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I was tossing up whether to post here or somewhere else, but it makes sense as a creative piece.
I’ve been a bit addicted to Reddit lately, and was inspired by a bunch of different subs (namely Am I The Asshole (AITA), Relationship Advice, Off My Chest, that sort of thing) to write a size related piece/post. I realise that I could also post on any number of size/macro related subs, but I don’t know who frequents them and, frankly, I’m more comfortable posting here on DD.
I imagine this to be a bit interactive (like a Reddit post), but no pressure. Some circumstances inspired in part by @littlest-lily’s Out Of Their Element - lots of, well, elements/themes that I love.
Posted in r/relationships
by u/Oblivious_FetishI accidentally learned what “macrophilia” is and that my GF might have it – should I be concerned?
My (M29) girlfriend (f28) and I have been together for 5 years. We always planned on her moving in with me, but it was expediated by the MINUS-19 virus/pandemic as of 2 years ago when she caught the virus. As it turned out, my GF was one of those people who were extremely susceptible to contracting it. Her experience was pretty typical: cold and flu-like symptoms, headaches, fatigue and significant loss in stature. She’s about the size of my thumb. It’s safe to say that she’s got long-MINUS, as she hasn’t regained any height back. As many of you know, there is currently no treatment for it, so I still carry her around - she’s even got her favourite spots now: hand, shoulder, the top of my head, chest pocket.
That’s not really my issue, but I thought I would give some background before getting into the details. It’s a bit long, so bear with me. Otherwise, skip on through.
As you would expect, the first few months were really challenging for the both of us, getting used to her…condition. We’ve both had to learn and adjust to her new limitations, find solutions where possible. Like the place is covered in makeshift ladders, barriers on the edges of anything that poses a fall risk (tables, desks, kitchen counter), gaps in the walls and floors meticulously checked and filled, and there’s not a single cobweb around (her fear of spiders has gotten a hell of a lot more rational than before she shrunk).
But it’s actually been really great for our relationship. We established rules early, mostly around communication. Like if we don’t know where the other is, we both make an effort to announce ourselves before entering a room - she’ll knock on the skirting board, or blow on a surprisingly effective whistle she made. Ideally though, we tell each other our plans as soon as possible when it comes to movement - a big adjustment for the both of us. Or if I did something that’s bothering her, she tells me asap since walking away for some breathing room is a lot harder to achieve now. It’s gotten easier since companies released working products for people with MINUS-19 - having her own phone has been an absolute blessing.
On a personal note, the past 2 years have done wonders for my confidence and self-esteem. I know it sounds bad, like I’m seeing her condition as some ego-booster, but I don’t mean it in a condescending way (and definitely not like in a douchey “she makes my penis look huge huuhuuhuu” way either). It’s like…she’s seen every single part of me, close up and in high definition, unfortunate angles and all, whether she wants to or not: “every hair, freckle, pore, down to the grit that’s under your fingernails” - as she put it. And she still finds me attractive. You know when you open the camera on your phone and it’s still on selfie mode? Yeah, I think it’s seeing me like that most of the time, lol. So if she’s seen me at my ugliest, I guess I don’t look so bad in other people’s eyes either.
I also don’t want to make it seem like I’m taking advantage of her trauma. She is someone who was (and still is) so fiercely independent, but her condition has made her realise how much she has to rely on other people to do things for her and be okay with it. There’s a lot of trust involved of course. I guess, I’m grateful that she’s able to put trust in me enough to be able to pick her up without prior warning, or get her something that’s well out of her arm’s length, and generally making assessments and decisions for the both of us.
On to my issue…
A few months ago, we decided to consolidate our accounts - streaming services mostly, and other subscriptions that don’t need separate accounts. Currently, I pay for one half of the subscription services, she pays for the other half, and it evens out. This means that we both have each other’s Google profiles on our browsers to make logging in easier (we just have to switch profiles depending on what service we want to access).
A couple of weeks ago, I went to check my browser history to find a webpage I forgot to save, and I came across this block of unfamiliar searches and websites. Stuff about “macrophilia” and “shrunken women”. No one else has access to my Google profile, so I figured that it was my GF - that she searched for something and forgot that she was using my profile (which then saved in my search history).
I didn’t mean to pry but my curiosity got the better of me and I clicked on one of the pages: it was a picture gallery filled with naked or near-naked men photoshopped to be…huge. Like Godzilla/kaiju film huge. Some were pretty explicit, like clearly taken from pornographic material. The entire website itself was dedicated to some giant men fetish. I visited another one of the pages, and similar thing but with a mixture of giant women (same thing, Godzilla sized) or women being held in someone’s hand.
I did a bit of a dive to find out more about what “macrophilia” was, and I ended up with more questions that when I started. I’ve ever really engaged with fetishes before, and only really heard of the more well-known ones, but this? I got a bit overwhelmed and had to step away. I haven’t told my GF yet, but she’s starting to suspect that something is up.
So that’s why I’ve come here for advice. Has anyone else come across this before? I’m freaking out a little, because it’s making me question so much: is this recent? Is she still with me because I fit into her fetish? There seems to be a LOT of giant women in macrophilia - does that mean she likes women? I’m not against bi people, but what if she’s full-blown lesbian?
I realise that a lot of my questions can be answered by talking to her, but how do I broach this with her without making her uncomfortable? Like I said, I’m a bit overwhelmed and would appreciate advice on where to start.
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Replying to u/Oblivious_Fetish
by u/MouthDaddyDude! Get your ass over to r/MINUS-19Life! Sex was one the first things people started adapting to. Macrophilia/microphilia aren’t fetishes anymore, they’re lifestyles.
As your girlfriend could tell you, contracting MINUS-19 blows your mind wide open. In some people their entire personality changes. There’s a lot of fear and that never really goes away, but some people find themselves considering possibilities they never would have otherwise.
There are many factors that go into maintaining a mixed-size relationship. She might not have been into big guys at all until she caught the virus. Obviously, the fact that she trusts you is much more important to her than whatever jollies she gets from exploring your body.
I hope your girlfriend has some close friends to confide in, including other MINUS-19 sufferers. Too bad your fingers are too big to snoop on her phone lol.
Bottom line: Talk to her. By necessity she’s thought about this a lot more than you have, so be ready for the waterworks. Plan on it being a series of conversations rather than a single confrontation. And don’t be overly influenced by what you find on the internet; this is about her perspective and her needs. And you should be prepared to be open about your needs, too.
PS. It’s totally okay to think her climbing your giant cock looks hot. It sounds like she does.
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Replying to u/Oblivious_Fetish
by u/pure_MalarkeYEat. Her. Bro
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@miss-lillipants I’m totally stealing that whistle idea.
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@miss-lillipants Love this so much ahhhhh! Anytime these things get a little meta, like Snapchat or Instagram edits (hell that’s part of what I’m currently doing with the comic where the author herself is tiny), I just adore it~
Replying to u/Oblivious_Fetish
by u/AvieUndineFellow MINUS-19 gal here! First of all, it’s so amazing that you guys were able to adapt so well to all of the insane life changes this virus causes. Do you know how many couples haven’t been able to last due to what’s essentially a brand new disability that no one saw coming?? So major props to you guys for pulling through and making it work.
You already know you need to talk to her. I think the way you found out about it to begin with is understandable enough, it doesn’t sound like you were intending to snoop. I would just tell her what happened and gently question her from there. Just be as patient and understanding as possible when you do, you might have to do a whole lot of reassuring her that you don’t mind the kink. I was in a similar situation, except my boyfriend didn’t tell me about his kink at first, and I really wish he had… all good now though. Communication, communication, communication!!
As for worrying about whether her kink affects your relationship – you have the bonus of already being in a relationship BEFORE the virus! I think it’s pretty clear that she loves you for you, regardless of anything else. If the size difference ends up being an extra perk for her… is that really so bad?
Good luck!! Let us know how it goes, I’m invested now!
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@miss-lillipants (Oh, so you wanted the “Reddit” experience? Okay, here we go…
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by u/PoutineLoverActually, it’s not called “MINUS-19” - the real name is SHRK-Min-2.
My fellow redditor, she’s the size of your frikkin’ thumb! Who cares what she thinks or feels, she’s like… a pet. Not even that. And judging by the kinky shit she’s googling she probably wants to be treated as such. No need to go all “M’Lady” and tip your fedora for such a puny little thing. And NO, I’m NOT jealous of your bug girlfriend! Nope. I mean, I don’t actually have one, but I would NEVER go so low as to call a thumb-sized girl a “girlfriend”. Sad.
Edit: Send pics!
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Replying to u/PoutineLover
By u/MouthDaddyThanks for the pedantry, mec. You somehow neglected to mention that virus sufferers are technically called Virally Induced Micromorphs even though everyone (including themselves!) calls them Minis.
I sincerely hope no Mini woman (or any Mini, for that matter) is unfortunate enough to run into you.
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Thank you for your responses! I purposely kept certain details vague so I appreciate all of your interpretations of the narrative and getting into your ‘character posts’
Instead of responding to individual comments, I’ll reply with an update that aims to address your replies as well as imaginary replies (just to help with story-building).This one’s a happy ending because I love happy endings
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Update to I accidentally learned what “macrophilia” is and that my GF might have it – should I be concerned?
u/Oblivious_FetishThanks for your all your replies. A lot of your responses helped calm me down and re-iterated what I already knew I needed to do. For some of you who seem to think my GF is just some object, I truly hope no one affected by MINUS ever has the misfortune to ever come across you. Seek help. Additionally, for those of you who are clearly MINUS denialists seeking proof of her condition: I’m not going to do that for OBVIOUS reasons, but also because I refuse to pander to your delusions.
On to the update. Again, it’s a long one so bear with me (tldr at the bottom):
I put on my big-boy pants and spoke to my GF. As suggested, I tried to be as gentle as possible (because she’s so small and fragile – heh, bad joke, sorry) and just brought up how I came to find out about her search history (I did apologise btw). Pretty much what I wrote in my original post.
She went quiet and was very clearly nervous, but I didn’t push it too much. She looked like a scared little bird. I’m glad that I’ve gotten used to how cute she is at her size because I would have otherwise caved and told her to just forget it, after seeing those sad little eyes. But I don’t think that would have helped either of us if I just tried to sweep it all under the rug. It took a moment, but she eventually opened up. I’m sharing this with her permission:
Turns out, she’s had this…kink well before she contracted MINUS, that it started as a fascination with giants and tiny people, but it became more of a sexual kink when she got older. In hindsight, a lot of her obvious interests have all pointed to the same general theme. She loves Alice in Wonderland, Gulliver’s Travels (only the first part with the tiny people), kaiju films, and she loves all of the Tinkerbell movies. Honestly, a lot of things made sense in hindsight, like when she would suddenly get really quiet and intensely watch the screen when a giant or a tiny person appeared in a movie or show. Or she would somehow find these niche indie games that, you guessed it, had giants or tiny people in them.
She also referred herself as “the Jack to my beanstalk”, or my “Thumbelina” and calls me her “Man Mountain”. Like, it’s been in front of me the whole time and it just never clicked!
As some of you mentioned, lots of couples really struggled adjusting to such drastic change. I brought up my thoughts and how it made sense how quickly she seemed to adjust to her new size, given her interests. Interestingly, she said that she thought she would be more thrilled to be living a life-long fantasy of hers, but it couldn’t be more different. Related to what I’ve mentioned already, she said that everything was just so enormous and overwhelming – sights, sounds, smells (I got really self-conscious when she said that, but she assured me that I was fine lol). There were so few times that she ever looks down at the ground because she’s too busy craning her neck up at something. We also live in Australia and it’s a common joke to say that everything is trying to kill you – in her case, it’s a much more depressing reality. Summer is no longer her favourite season because it’s also snake season.
She said that she struggled to reconcile her kink with her new reality for a long time, and at one point felt like she was ready to drop her kink entirely. She described it as being like finding out that your favourite celebrity turned out to be a raging N*z1 and that everything that once brought you joy, now made you disappointed, sad and angry. But being much more personal, it was also like you lost something that you couldn’t get back. It was when she searched for content those weeks ago (when she accidentally used my profile), that she realised that she hadn’t lost her interest. I think it helps that she’s in a better place now mentally, and that it’s renewed her fascination with it again. I couldn’t help but feel a bit flattered when she said that, despite feeling the way she did, there was still a little part of her that enjoyed me being as big as I am compared to her, and that she often very fondly recalls our…deeds, much more intensely than pre-MINUS.
She clearly hadn’t spoken to anyone else about this, including her friends because she was too embarrassed. And because of her kinda mental limbo about her kink stuff, she hadn’t tried reaching out to MINUS support groups even though she as aware that there was help available. She said it was such a relief that she was able to finally talk about it, even though she hadn’t planned on bringing it up any time soon.
She’s been really open to answering my questions about macrophilia, microphilia, size stuff, etc. And her responses have all been a relief to hear (I can safely say that she is not, in fact, a lesbian lol). I already knew that she likes tall guys, but she’s assured me that she’s not staying with me because of my height (and more so now that I’m so huge to her). Just a happy coincidence. Many of you were right to say to take things on the internet with a grain of salt; despite a lot of general overlapping themes, I’m learning that the whole kink thing is very deeply personal, because I’m so glad that she doesn’t want me or expect me to do certain things to her – no judgement if some of you guys like doing stuff (consenting adults and all that), but I need to draw the line somewhere.
On the other hand, she’s also asked if we could play a bit more into her kink – she suggested starting slow first like petnames (which she already has, as I mentioned) and banter, before moving on to more physical stuff. The way she described how it made her feel, well…I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t curious. I’ve also taken on your suggestions and started visiting other MINUS related subs (in fact, we check them out together) and holy shit, people are really creative!
So yeah, I had nothing to worry about, I’ve learned something new about my adorable little girlfriend, and it’s been really enlightening to learn about these new directions for our relationship. I think this will be the only update. Thanks again for your responses and, I’m sure many of you already know this, I highly recommend internal and secret pockets for covert PDAs.
TL;DR my GF and I talked about her macrophilia kink, it was a cathartic experience for us both, and we’re exploring opportunities to integrate it more into our relationship.
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@miss-lillipants (I thoroughly enjoyed your idea and story! Hope you don’t mind my stupid average Reddit troll too much - pretty sure the mods would have permabanned his ass at this point hehe
)Replying to u/Oblivious_Fetish
by u/PoutineLoverMouthDaddy, stop the simping - bug girl is NOT going to sleep with you! This is so r/cringe worthy, like your entire post history. And don’t you “mec” me… chu pas Français, chu Québ’, tabarnak!
Who said I never had a mini?! I mean a REAL shrunken girl, at least 6 inches high, not a puny, ridiculously small female. Ackchyually I’ve had my fair share of dolls, I can tell you what they love and it’s none of that cringy white knight shit.
OP, good luck having sex without killing her (pics or it didn’t happen!). Anyways I sure hope I gave you some ideas for pet names. I just have one last word of advice for you then (well, it’s technically two words smushed together) : OnlyFans.
Edit: Thanks for the gold, kind stranger!
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@foreverlurk You are too good at creating a hateable character that we’ve all seen online. I beseech you, sir, please get into writing
If you’d like to support me and my work, please feel free to leave me a tip and I will be so grateful! https://ko-fi.com/littlestlily
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Social-media-themed size content has been one of my favorite trends in recent years, from YouTube comment streams to Instagram collages to dating apps. I’m afraid I don’t have enough (any) exposure to TikTok, so I don’t dare to try to simulate it.
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@foreverlurk said:
(I thoroughly enjoyed your idea and story! Hope you don’t mind my stupid average Reddit troll too much - pretty sure the mods would have permabanned his ass at this point hehe )
Aw thanks!
and no, I didn’t mind at all! I really appreciated it. It’s no Reddit post without some pitiable troll weighing in with pointless, muddled response, haha -
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@Olo said:
Social-media-themed size content has been one of my favorite trends in recent years, from YouTube comment streams to Instagram collages to dating apps. I’m afraid I don’t have enough (any) exposure to TikTok, so I don’t dare to try to simulate it.
For me, It’s the relatableness crossed with the performative aspect of social media that makes it such an engaging format. Re: dating apps, one of my favourite tropes is the blind date where everything is revealed.
I have another “post” on file that I’d like to share that’s from the perspective of one of my regular tiny characters. There’s possibly another unrelated one if I get to develop it a bit more. But I’ll pace them out a bit so as not to flood the forum.
