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Not herself by solocup

You cannot be an object of desire without being an object, and the bigger someone is, it’s going to reflect the desire of the other more blatantly.

The Miniature Wife by @docop

Hammock with a View 01 by Warin-the-Younger

@TakoAlice8 On one level, I can relate, because I strongly dislike F/m content (actually, I strongly dislike “tiny male” content in general). It does make me feel uncomfortable and kind of grossed out, but I also realize that there’s nothing inherently wrong with other people liking it…just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean it shouldn’t exist.

I’m not bothered so much by “objectification”, per se, because I believe it’s impossible to be sexually attracted to another person without “objectifying” them in some way. Lots of people act as if only men can objectify others and only women can be objectified, but there’s absolutely zero evidence to support that idea. Both genders do it, and both genders are on the receiving end of it. I don’t think so-called “objectification” is automatically bad or dehumanizing, because it’s possible to see someone as BOTH an object of sexual desire AND as a human being at the same time. Objectification doesn’t become a problem unless you see someone ONLY as a sexual object and not as a person too. The desire to have sex with someone doesn’t imply that you don’t see them as a person.

(Lots of women have asked their husbands in exasperation: “Why do you want to have sex with me when I’m not in the mood? Do you see me as nothing but a sex object?” But a husband could reply to that by saying “Why do you want me to listen to you vent about your problems for three hours when I’m not in the mood? Do you see me as nothing but a listening object?” Or “Why do you want me to pay bills and be a provider when I’m not in the mood? Do you see me as nothing but a financial object?” It’s all a matter of perspective.)

So I don’t worry so much about the objectification component. But it does bother me how the women in F/m content tend to behave in ways that NO actual human would EVER behave. Either they’re nymphomaniacs who think about nothing but sex at all times or they’re psychopathic sadists with an unquenchable lust for blood and the humiliation or degradation of others. That does turn me off and give me “the ick.” I don’t understand why any man would find that attractive in a woman or want to fantasize about it.

@miss-lillipants said:

I will add that we have to consider the broader socio-cultural context in which content is produced and consumed.

The OP was singling out F/m for the particular harms it can cause. The (straight) male gaze problem is present in all media and genres, and M/f is no exception.

Little Punk 01, 02, and 03 by Warin-the-Younger

F/m has been my primary interest for most of my fetish “career.” Over the years I have observed with increasing dismay and disgust how petty and entitled the loudest segment of F/m enthusiasts became, arrogating to themselves ownership of “the Giantess fetish” and demanding everyone in Size spaces recognize their authority and conform to their prescriptions. There’s nothing about F/m that requires such obnoxious behavior and it’s embarrassing to be associated with it.

The chief problem with “objectification” (in any context) is that it removes other people, erasing their personalities and needs and wants, and treating them as mere props in one’s own narrative. A male F/m fan who has a simplistic and rigid view of how giantesses are supposed to behave is indeed engaging in objectification of women in his fantasy. The remedy is to compose a fantasy featuring complex and varied characters, both male and female, such that everyone has different reactions to the scenario and more readers/viewers can find room for themselves or at least for their desires.

A physical fetish like Size is naturally going to “objectify” elements such as body parts, sensations, and emotional effects. There’s nothing wrong with that. F/m should focus on giant female bodies just as much as M/f should focus on giant male bodies. That’s what we’re here for. As a straight dude who enjoys M/f, I want to see/read how tiny women feel in the presence of giant men. That’s objectification I actively desire.

I completely sympathize with anyone tired of how hegemonic F/m has become in Size spaces. You have nothing to apologize for when venting your feelings on this subject.

The Crawl Out by Warin-the-Younger

Club Nylon the Iva Cut by Warin-the-Younger