@TakoAlice8 Hi this makes sense to me, as a man who is “into” tiny ladies, I think my experience is more along the lines of making a size dysphoric woman feel more comfortable by constantly calling her tiny, small, short, any words that let her know I see her in that kind of light. I am a pretty monogamous and romantic person by nature, and for me it makes sense to constantly comfort a person in this way because genuinely I “LOVE” making them feel so small, over and over again, like a tourettes tick.
I think worrying about body image is also relatively normal. I started working out a couple years ago, and as I developed muscles, I started to connect it with my identity. I started to “see myself” more in my fantasies with tiny women, rather than just seeing them in a 3rd person kind of way because I used to be so skinny. It’s like “wanting” my body to look a certain way, though I don’t think for me it’s dysphoric because, well I’m a man into tiny women. But it’s kind of cool to see the slow (like years-long slow) but progressive transformation.
The other way I relate to you is through my addiction. I have an addiction to screens, and the thing is as I “fight” my addiction more, the more shame I feel about it. I’ve had to learn how to be kind to myself when I’m having a relapse and how to manage my addiction through a combination of self-compassion and genuine hard work. The working out stuff is related as it helps me with the addiction stuff. But basically I wonder if you feel like this, kind of way, and the difficulty of dealing with it like this. Maybe so maybe not.
Really appreciate you being vulnerable about this, it’s a neat topic I hope that I didn’t invalidate any of your experience through my perspective.