A few points I’d add here:
First, @Olo I really do think women get far too much of a pass when it comes to all things sexual. Thirty-some years ago when I was in much better shape and started shaving my head, I can’t even begin to list all the times I was in some mundane public place minding my own business and suddenly felt a hand, or even several, suddenly rubbing my head. They always belonged to a woman, and she NEVER asked if I minded her touching me, even after I turned to look at her. I bounced in strip clubs, worked as a security driver for escorts, and for the last 17 years I’ve made dirty movies with nude performers and I’ve never even considered touching a woman without her permission, but after watching women not only pawing men but rubbing pregnant bellies, fondling new implants, and other things, for years and never asking for permission I realized how much women don’t bother to learn the lessons they keep teaching us about personal space and bodily autonomy.
Second, I’d toss in my opinion that ANY sexual fantasy, sizey or otherwise involving a real person that you don’t know is inherently fictional because you don’t know them. I used to think I had a crush on Gillian Anderson because I’ve always been attracted to both redheads and very intelligent women. Years into the X-Files I saw her interviewed on a late-night talk show and was crushed because it turns out that she’s not very bright in person and I realized my crush was actually on the fictional Dana Scully. Fantasizing about a public figure who makes their living BEING a public figure isn’t just harmless, it’s the cost of doing business. Just my 2 cents.
Lastly (you can relax now), I would love to know where you all were when I was a young man! Not only was I a nerd before most of you were shaving anything, I actually owned a hobby shop during my first marriage and have been a proud and hardcore Space Wolves commander for over 30 years with Bjorn the Fell-Handed leading my troops! LOL!