I don’t think there is anything wrong with exploring, but you don’t need to change your preferences to fit others. I’ve met countless fellow tiny ladies, and we are all a spectrum. Some love it only sweet, only dark, or somewhere in between.
With this space specifically, I had hoped that if you do have those dark fantasies, that you could explore them safely here, and if that’s what you want, then I hope you find some validation in those feelings here. I had always noticed men specifically had reservations about opening up in this regard, and I get it, especially living in the era of #metoo. My eyes really opened up after the meetups/SizeCon, where I could physically see in their eyes the sense of relief, knowing they could discuss this in a judge-free space, with others who felt the same.
The important part is always keeping reality vs fantasy in perspective. My husband chokes me, slaps me, fucks me whenever he gets the itch for it, humiliates me, and the list goes on. For many outside observers, they might see this as abusive. But the thing is, my husband has done all these things with my consent. He knows what the rules are of “our game” and he’s never disrespected me. He supports and encourages me in ANYTHING I want to pursue (work education, projects, etc), he keeps his temper in check, and even helps me with chores when he doesn’t have to. He’s a normal dude. Heck, he’s a feminist, and has always defended, encouraged and uplifted the women in his life.
I’ve never been raped (thank god), but I’ve had a few instances of men stalking me, even one man who held me down and got angry because I didn’t accept his compliment. It’s scary because they certainly don’t have my interest in mind, and I don’t know their intent. It’s NOT sexy. Games on the other hand are fun, and I can let my hair down and enjoy. Even if the games may seem dark from the outside.