What excites/pleases you most about this fetish?
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For me, what pleases me the most about this kind of thing is something a lot of others have said: power, pure and simple. It’s something I understood pretty quickly about myself as soon as I started thinking about it.
I’m more on the GT end then the SW end, I’ve found, and it’s for the simple reason that I, personally, want more power, rather than I want to take away other’s power. Even as a child, before any of this really kicked in, I wanted to be a dragon because dragons are a symbol of power: big, strong, unstoppable, inspiring both fear and awe.
On a fundamental level, I’ve found, a SW story is about dehumanizing a woman to some degree, even if those around them are gentle and kind and treat them like people, because they simply can’t do the things considered normal for a person to do. The crueler stories simply take that to the logical extremes: they are lesser, they aren’t human, they’re pets, toys, etc, and therefore they don’t deserve those rights.
A giant story, on the other hand, is about empowering a man to be more than a man. On the logistic end, there can be conflicts with how daily life things aren’t there, or how fragile the world is, but even then that’s a dynamic/metaphor all it’s own, about how they surpass the works of humanity, and thus humanity itself, which is of course something that can be played with as its own concept with giants as rulers or gods.
There’s this odd juxtaposition on the fact that I want the ability to do things to people, including horrible things at times, but at the same time having no real desire to use said things outside of fantasizing, which is probably why my stories tend back to the SW end: it’s easier to be kind when your less likely to do damage to everyone around with your existence. There’s probably something to say about the fact I want that power for the freedom of it, rather than the use of it.
Fantasizing about being cruel has its place, of course. From vore and the brutal primal nature of it, the implicit triumph and taking involved with eating something, to the casual domination of stepping on things, people, places simply because you can, or even out of the lack of desire to even avoid them. To reduce a living thing in merely what you want her to be, to destroy whatever parts of her personality you don’t like until her world is you, and she can’t imagine a life not being your possession.
There’s something especially tantalizing about betrayal, perhaps because I loathe it on a fundamental level: the act of making your victim lower her guard, maybe making her think you’re her friend, maybe making her a promise that you’ll protect her, spare her, help her, if she just does this one thing… only to break that agreement when the time comes. And at that moment, her emotions: the heartbreak, the disbelief, the hurt, the despair, that instant when the hope dies is… intoxicating.
Power is choice.
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@i-am-insane Thanks for your view and share. the sooner a SW accepts her new environment/situation and that she is a slave, toy, pet, or someone’s property the better off it is for her, hoping to return to normal can be pointless once there is no way of going back, and if it were possible, it will not make the situation any better. Power play is addicting especially when you don’t have it at all or some of the time. Breaking another to your will for me is empowering, when in real life others have all the power and make me do their will and not mine. One of my traits is influence, others have it too, but I can read people emotional and mentally most of the time so that helps me influence them to my will. Takes me 15 minutes to know whether I like a person or I get a bad vibe off of them. Power itself is intoxicating though.
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@Olo I went through a similar thing when you said, “ As someone who viewed all heterosexual relationships as adversarial (that were usually dominated by men and their desires), the notion that I wasn’t already sufficiently advantaged and that I had to shrink women and stuff them in my mouth in order to find satisfaction was unbearable.” I felt ashamed about being a women with macrophilia because society usually sees women as being less dominant. Although I am not either dominant or submissive despite being tiny in the size community, I did felt ashamed with being a submissive. It didn’t help that when I was researching about my fetish, I couldn’t find any articles or videos on women with macrophilia. All of them explained men having the fetish. A lot of them explained that women don’t have the fetish as much as men because of society seeing women as less dominant and men as big and powerful. And so I thank you for sharing about your experiences. It is so refreshing to see I am not the only person who went through this struggle and that I am not alone. I am not very good at writing and I suppose it might be partially because of my mental disability, so I apologize if this post sounds a bit disorganized.
My size may be small, but my will is bigger than y’all
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@TakoAlice8 You don’t sound disorganized at all. Our society still has a long way to go with helping people feel comfortable exploring their desires, and it’s even poorer at letting women express their fantasies. @Jitensha and @Seru set this forum up specifically to make a space for people who weren’t getting much validation from the rest of the size community, and little ladies like you aren’t as rare as some folks would have it.
I’m glad you found us.
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@TakoAlice8 Have you read this section of the site? I really like how Jitensha explains how our fetishes, our urges to be submissive or dominant don’t mean anything wrong with our lives.
https://daddysdollhouse.org/resources
Acceptance, from ourselves and the persons we trust will help us understand there’s nothing wrong or abnormal with liking this so much, it’s something to enjoy which actually enrich our lives.
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@Technomage Yeah, I am very thankful for this site.
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@TakoAlice8 said in What excites/pleases you most about this fetish?:
Although I am not either dominant or submissive despite being tiny in the size community, I did felt ashamed with being a submissive. It didn’t help that when I was researching about my fetish, I couldn’t find any articles or videos on women with macrophilia.
I understand this feeling, like guilt in feeling good about being submissive, weak and powerless while living in an already misogynistic society. And in line with what’s been said already, you are not alone and there is no shame in liking feeling that way - it is both a deeply personal feeling and one that doesn’t define who you are and how you value yourself or others.
Personally, I have been treated like crap for being a woman and, with age, have unlearned a lot of internalised misogyny and learned my worth in my private and working life. There’s still a lot of work I need to do to not take people’s shit, but what I know that is NOT part of that is undoing my predilection for being dominated by a hunky kaiju-sized man who stomps through the streets; crush me, my house and the house next door; sit on me, keep me in his underwear all day, roll me around in his mouth; gently or violently - whatever it is that makes me or other women in particular feel small and helpless. Even in RL, I like to be dominated by my partner. But at the end of the day, I want women, femmes and non-binary friends to feel safer and be treated better by our families, friends, co-workers and society.
All of them explained men having the fetish. A lot of them explained that women don’t have the fetish as much as men because of society seeing women as less dominant and men as big and powerful.
I wonder whether representative numbers or stats exist to back this. There are plenty of theories with regards to the lack of women in this fetish (and many other fetishes with power dynamics, I’m sure), including that women are simply not as vocal and, therefore, present. Which, of course, doesn’t mean they don’t exist as macro/microphiliacs, but (or maybe as a result), their views are also not sought after - and less so for asexual, femme, non-binary peeps, etc. There are a few interviews that I’m aware of, but they often centre around GTS content and the men who consume their material. Part of it is curiosity, but the other part is out of concern because, as you shared yourself, it can feed into misunderstandings of ourselves.
Anyway, from a sub, I hope you are able to find some solace in our little forum
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@miss-lillipants Thank you, I have found lots of solace from this site and people like you
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@Giant-me One thing I really like about being on this site is hearing about people’s fantasies. These fantasies give me lots of ideas for my own fantasies or creations.
(My first comment on this post was not related to the topic which I apologize. I was new here and that was my very first comment on this site.)
Seeing a giant gives me this really unique feeling, it’s like ecstasy mixed with excitement, doom, and arousal. The intimidating presence of him makes me excited. This feeling is only with male giants. I used to be into female giants, they didn’t give the same feeling, but I did find them interesting. I drifted away from them because male giants give me a better feeling to me. That is why I crave size content of male giants so much. I do like gentle, gentle does give me a comforting feeling, but I also like when the giant is intimidating, makes it more exciting.My size may be small, but my will is bigger than y’all
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@TakoAlice8 One of my favorite intimidating giant tropes is when he is unintentionally intimidating. He makes some movement or sound that is totally innocuous to him, but then he looks down and sees that her eyes have gone wide and she’s frozen in shock. Sometimes he’s embarrassed and apologizes for his abrupt behavior, and sometimes he just gives her a look that says, “Yeah, I’m huge and you best get used to it.”
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I always come back to a few things in my size kink. The first is that I’ve never been all that much into shrinking - in the few SW stories I’ve written, the man is either trying to help or (in the case of an unposted story) trying to figure out how to use his powers for good, and does so while navigating social expectations of healthy masculinity.
As many of you know, I’m interested in military themes too, because questions of bodily autonomy there interest me a lot. Governments and institutions experimenting on bodies isn’t just a ripe metaphor, it’s a reality. And to me it’s a way more powerful metaphor than just “shrink ray go zap”. Military institutions are also very interesting ways to explore the symbols and ethics of power, danger, and hierarchy. To me, it all goes quite hand-in-hand with size difference.
As I get older, too, the more I realize that my kinks are best enjoyed in narrative form, building toward something, whether that “something” is a well-crafted scene or a friendship or something else, rather than just it being a mindless escape. With IRL kink - whenever I get back into it - I want to explore this a lot more too.
To me, “being big” is about effortless and unwavering confidence - big dick energy, or literally being “the bigger person” - not about power. Because if you have confidence in yourself, no matter where you are and what you’re doing, you have complete power over yourself, which is something that can’t be taken from you by anyone or anything. It is the ultimate “alpha” move. Any dumb idiot can get mad, anyone can hurt and lash out and abuse, especially a stranger or someone smaller. But it takes a metaphorical giant to not lose themselves to a petty situation. A metaphorical giant isn’t bothered by the little people and the little problems around them: they have the power to remain detached, to walk away. I’ve always been more interested in the stories of giants and the people brave enough to accept and love them rather than the stories of shrinkers for that reason.
It’s exciting to me because that’s a real thing, that’s not something that I can only indulge in secret on the weekends, it’s something to bring with me into my actual lived life. It’s something to bring into real sex with real people. It’s a real way to be a dominant and build relationships. The fetishy stuff is great fun, don’t get me wrong, but the particulars of this or that exact way of stomping on a city or doing cockvore come second, they’re the window dressing to the core of the kink for me, which will always be that question of “how does one wield power in this fucked up world?”
