@foreverlurk said in Is role playing a form of cheating?:
I don’t disagree. I simply wasn’t able to tell her about the kink, yet I couldn’t give up SW. It’s not that I never tried, either. It’s just not quite the same for me as, say, asking your partner for a threesome, other more normie-ish things of that nature.
Everyone has a thousand reasons for not telling their partner when they’re doing something close to the line. In a situation like that you would have three options. Tell her. Give it up. Or give her up. This isn’t the kind of secret you get to keep in a relationship.
@The-Big-G said in Is role playing a form of cheating?:
Following a side rail of this conversation the amount people I’ve run into or chatted with that are uncomfortable with even broaching the subject of this kink or any other with there partners. Or hell anyone outside of the community and sometimes even then as they fear the rejection that it may incite or others that only let there kink flag fly once or twice a year the rest of the time wallowing in fear/guilt. Don’t get me wrong some peoples beliefs or lifestyles or jobs would be impacted and so I don’t blame or hold any resentment to these people. Like myself I’ve been very open about my desires to friends and family like as a cis white middle aged male that if Henry Cavill or Chris Hemsworth decided I needed to be breed who am I to argue. If I was in relationship I wouldn’t see that as cheating because it’s fucken Thor and superman there would be no romantic attraction and I think that is the point I’m trying to make I feel cheating is the point when you romanticly desire someone else more than your partner at that point your decided that your current bond isn’t what you want.
I’m sort of the opposite, I don’t tell anyone about my kinks. Any of them. Even the ones that aren’t really kinks. I’d find it just as weird to go around tell people “oh yeah I like sex best when I’m on the bottom” than I would any kink.
The size stuff is in weird place, because you can have non-kinky size stuff that doesn’t even approach lewdness. Looks over to the D&D book on giants. N-not that I would own a book like that or use giants in my campaign
Also I won’t judge your kink, but I will judge you for putting Cavill and Hemsworth on the same level. There’s a clear winner there.
