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@Olo Even when I was a kid I could understand my little cousins from Quebec!.. Most of the time…

@foreverlurk That’s a great idea! I’m not sure how well I’d be able to tackle it since I’m not as familiar with the culture barriers in Canada.

…Now if only I knew someone who did 🤭 hehe

@miss-lillipants said in Language barrier:

N.B. I’ve been made aware that I posted this around the same time another discussion on the same topic was being held on Discord. It was a total coincidence because I don’t use Discord for size stuff, but it made me laugh and happy to still be involved in other group discussions - even if it is through the ether

The timing was indeed uncanny! Haha, I’m like who else here is undercover from SFW servers

I love the idea of language barriers as an added difficulty alongside the size difference. One of the stories I’ve actually started (and thus hope to actually finish) involves a deaf character. I’ll cut myself off there, but I intend for most of the story to revolve around communication barriers.

But another idea on the list that I don’t necessarily see myself getting to is a girl who shrinks while camping in the woods near the French Alps. She’s relieved to finally get a hiker’s attention… only to face the frustration of him being an American tourist!! He hardly knows any French and now she wishes she’d paid closer attention to her English classes lol.

I’m loving these communication ideas that are more tactile! Drawing symbols in his palm… communicating via gentle squeezes or Morse code tapping or whatever else… yes please! More touching! 🥰

@Olo Working on it!

I had another thought on the whole male/female gaze thing, because initially I was only thinking about written stories, but it’s also something that I’ve seen with art. I’ve seen so many collages or drawings of naked sexy lady on a desk, or in a fist, where the focus does seem entirely on the SW. As opposed to there being more of a focus on the giant - seeing the both of them, or seeing his face in the background. Or heck, even if it’s just a lady in a hand, there can still be personality in that hand, a difference in the way he’s touching her, the way she’s looking at him - the focus being more on whatever level of emotional connection they share.

Of course, some of the differences here stem from how tricky it is to make art that fully illustrates both the tiny and the biggo (I’m all too aware of that struggle lol). But I still think there’s something to it. Again, I’m doing a lot of generalizing, and I’m not saying anything is objectively right or wrong, just interesting things to think about!

@Olo I’ll toss out my own opinion on this one! To explain how I think of it in very broad strokes, “male gaze” to me is more of a focus on the physical (in the past when I’ve RP’d with dudes, most of the time they would ask me what my character was wearing - just as an example). Whereas “female gaze” feels like it has a bit more of a focus on the emotional - inner monologues, slow burns, angst. At least this is what I’ve gathered from the stuff I’ve read and the demographics of the different communities I’ve been a part of. Obviously this is a big generalization and all genders can enjoy any of it~

@Olo I can totally see that. Meanwhile, during an actual panic attack I (sometimes) seriously benefit from being held by someone I deeply trust. Similar to how some people are comfort by weighted blankets, I guess, or babies when they’re being swaddled. A massive, caring, protective presence is my kind of therapy.

@protect-tinies Well I certainly love the way you think. Maybe a little extreme for anyone dealing with trauma, but I sure would sign up willingly~

I definitely love the idea of doing something with this. Depending on how badly the tiny needs it, she might need a much more gradual approach.

Here’s my 14 day program:

1. Chat with the giant via video chat, just go get to know them
2. Chat with the giant in person, from the other side of a safety barrier
3. Chat with the giant without barrier but with a respectable distance
4. Chat with the giant while he has his hand on the table, but without touching
5. Practice touching his hand (he doesn’t move)
6. Practice sitting in his hand (he doesn’t move)
7. Practice giant doing light touching (aka handshake, high five, etc)
8. Practice climbing into his hand and him lifting it up
9. Practice sitting in his hand while he loosely wraps his other hand around her for safety
10. Practice him standing up while holding her
11. Practice him walking around while holding her
12. Practice him wrapping his fingers around her with the purpose of lifting her up (very slightly)
13. Practice him picking her up with purpose of transferring her to his palm to carry her around as usual
14. Practice him picking her up and walking around without her needing to be sitting in his palm

Congrats! You’ve finished the basics of giant exposure therapy. Have fun with your new large friend. Next time we’ll be practicing sitting in unconventional places, such as in his pocket, his lap, and his shoulder.

@miss-lillipants I would love to read the story you mentioned 🥺

It’s interesting to think about what those small animals might be thinking. Like if one gets caught in a net and then a person took them out of the net… Do they think the person was responsible for the net? Or do they mistakenly think they’re being saved from the net by the person??

Okay, obviously animals aren’t thinking it through to that extent, but a tiny person might!

@SmolChlo welp, don’t mind me, it seems I’ve melted into a puddle at the thought of this

Oh man I’m loving the term “giant exposure therapy”. I feel like I’ve vaguely explored that concept when writing if I think about it (like a character feeling like “dammit, I need to stop being so scared of him! I’ll to force myself to interact so I get used to him!”), but not where the whole story is centered around that concept. Gah, the angst, the silent negotiation of power dynamics, the path to healing, I love the potential of this!

@Olo Ohhhh thank you for the new Tumblr artist to follow…

@i-am-insane The thought of being the bigger one makes me so uncomfortable, nauseous even, because it just sounds so embarrassing. I’d be so self conscious with all my flaws so magnified.

But, if we assume it’s a totally safe situation, the idea of being small sounds so freeing to me. I have so much more space, I’m not in anyone’s way, my flaws are less perceivable. And the idea of being fawned over by someone so much bigger is humbling and endearing all at once. 🥰

@skysayl I think about this all the time and you’ve put it into words so well. It really is mind blowing!