@TakoAlice8 The one-sided love is a tale as old as time. Personally, there is something so much scarier about a well-meaning abuser. I think there’s a famous quote by C S, Lewis that sums it up best. Let me paraphrase it.
"It would be better to live under a cruel tyrant than a self-righteous tyrant.
A cruel tyrant is just hurting you because he is getting something out of it, be it power, wealth, or pleasure, and the moment they stop getting that from your suffering, he’ll leave you alone.
But a self-righteous tyrant is not hurting you for personal gain. They are hurting you because they think it is right, just, and in your own best interest.
And no matter how hard you resist, no matter how ineffective or unprofitable it is, they will never stop hurting you because, in the core of their being, they think they are helping you."