What excites/pleases you most about this fetish?
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@nyx I too am a more gentle character, I worry I may go to the dark side sometimes in what I believe is right even in fantasy life, but I have a code of morals.
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TL;DR: Size-differential is such a primal and undeniable power-differential that even the most kind and respectful people can be corrupted by it.
[Some of the below is lifted from Size Fantasy and Alternate Sexuality]
Being (relatively) giant means never having to say you’re sorry. Having a shrunken woman in my clutches means I get to ogle, grope, and taste her whenever I want. If that sounds like a rape fantasy, it is. I still sometimes feel like I should be ashamed of that, but I have also spent most of my life hoping to hear a woman tell me she’d like to shrink me and rape me, so I just shrug and keep posting this stuff pseudonymously.
Before it was sexual, my interest in size fantasy was a morbid fascination with how helpless a mouse-sized person would be. How easily and casually they could be handled, controlled, entrapped. Part of the fascination came from watching full-size people suddenly appreciate the power they now held over a tiny person. Even people of good character found it hard to resist at least playing with or teasing tinies. A careless or unaware full-size person could wreak enormous havoc upon tiny people. Being tiny was innately humiliating. Whenever size differential appeared in a TV show or a movie, I was instantly alert to how others reacted, to see if they shared my fascination. I didn’t really understand it at the time, but I was taking others’ measure of empathy and cruelty. I was also examining myself.
I wasn’t particularly identifying with any party in these scenarios. It was the encounter itself that fascinated me. Children’s entertainment is full of large characters devouring small ones, but it is almost always harmless and reversible. I became obsessed with those few instances where it wasn’t. I wanted to witness both the horror of being ingested as well as the domination of devouring another. It seemed both ridiculous and primal.
This combination of absurd and powerful also resonated with me as I began exploring my sexual feelings. I am a cishet male and have always been attracted (almost exclusively) to AFAB girls and women, but at a very early age I rejected what I perceived as society’s expectations for me as a heterosexual male. I thought everyone was trapped in a theater of selfishness and exploitation and manipulation, and I would rather be castrated than participate. Many adolescents go through periods of anxiety and self-pity and misanthropy, but I cultivated mine for many years.
But I still had sexual feelings, of course, and I felt I had absolutely no control over them. In fact, they were simply redirected into my fantasy life, which had always been active bordering on distracting. It seemed quite natural to imagine myself as a tiny bug of a boy, trying not to be noticed by the popular giant bullies, spying on the beguiling giantesses, hoping to meet a gentle protectress but believing I deserved to be captured by a callous tormentress.
“Ironically,” the freedom granted by my imagination allowed me to explore and understand why I felt guilt and shame and insecurity. Make no mistake, I had disappeared up my own ass for years, time that could have been spent getting to know a wide range of girls and expanding the range of myself. I might have even met a girl with size fantasies herself, which would have changed my life in unimaginable ways.
Of course the genre of size fantasy that alarmed me the most was when I considered the possibility of holding a shrunken woman myself. As it happened, that idea took root in my head back when I thought the most compelling conclusion of size fantasy was vore. As someone who viewed all heterosexual relationships as adversarial (that were usually dominated by men and their desires), the notion that I wasn’t already sufficiently advantaged and that I had to shrink women and stuff them in my mouth in order to find satisfaction was unbearable. So I simply buried all M/f fantasies for decades. It wouldn’t be until I found and listened to female M/f fans on the internet that I began to come to peace with this.
As I discovered other size fantasists and the resulting diversity of size fantasies, I slowly stopped thinking of this as a kink that happened to me and more of an aesthetic for which I had spent years developing an appreciation. In addition to acknowledging my M/f fantasies, learning what inspired other people helped expand and illuminate what I found arousing about size differential. Detaching my size fantasies from the core of my sexual identity allowed me to enjoy them without thinking I was expressing my “true self.” This was mainly helpful for considerations of consent, but it also but also for experimenting with how it feels to voluntarily surrender power. I’m still pretty unpracticed at roleplaying with these concepts, but I always try to explore them in my stories.
I often liken my more gruesome size fantasies to horror movies to explain how I enjoy them. When you watch a movie monster eat someone, are you “identifying” with either the monster or the victim, or are you just a witness? Do you imagine the sensory experiences of either the predator or the prey? If you enjoy it, does that mean you wanted it to happen?
Our society has decided to accommodate rape victims who (subsequently) find rape fantasies arousing. We are more ambivalent about people who find a rapist’s perspective arousing. I won’t pretend that, when I hear a woman say she enjoys the fantasy of raping a shrunken man, I don’t feel a little absolution for my own predatory desires.
My wife and I don’t engage in any dom/sub play, primarily because we both come from abusive families with shitty fathers and appeasing mothers, and we are each others’ safe havens from bullshit heterosexual roles and scripts. But she loves her some horror fiction, the gorier the better, and I write stories about giants raping and eating tinies. Our minds contain it all.
Even when a giant ultimately decides to respect and protect any tinies they encounter, there are multiple moments when that decision must be revisited and reaffirmed, an instant temptation each time. That’s what I love about handhelds; they are simultaneously protective and predatory, and the only clue as to their ultimate character is in the giant’s eyes.
That’s what I want from size fantasy: that confrontation with power-differential, over and over, with as many different giants and tinies as are imaginable.
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sexually I am a gentle dom. that leans into dubcon (I only just recently picked up that word). shrinking is the ultimate expression of this.
i love the idea of a guy shrinking a girl who is either to proud or too shy to admit she loves to be a sex pet.
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@biggrumpy Agree with that a 100%, dubcon fantasy
What does Dubcon mean? https://www.slanglang.net/slang/dubcon/
Dubcon is a tag seen especially related to fan lore or fanart, and it is the composite of the words dubious and consent, describing a sexual intercourse that may or may not have happened with consent.It is a middle ground between consensual sex and rape, although it is not always depicting sexual content, as presented by the common tag dubcon cuddling.
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@giant-me dubcon cuddling… also know as kidnap cuddles
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@olo It seems the way society is with its demands on an individual at all stages of life, affects through family(my dad was a verbally abusive unhealthy miserable war veteran and mom was too compliant and punishing, and both overprotective, my grandfather was also mentally abusive to me and my mom.) friends(peer pressuring and sometimes not sympathetic) and others(like bully or treat you different because they see you as different or are jealous cause your grass is greener than theirs and don’t understand you, My ex became hurtful verbally and also unsympathetic of me, I went to war with some very unsympathetic people, but there were a few good people out there who were very helpful to even a balance of good and bad.) in many ways through influence has on your well-being can cause your fantasy choices the mind chooses as coping and distraction, but wonderful things do come from it because of a complex mind’s imagination, Media of books, film/movies, and TV also build a great influence to a child then a grown person’s imagination through the years and helps them create more for others to experience. Thanks for your input and helping us understand your view.
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Being able to have control over a tiny having them put their all into pleasing me. Having a collection of tinies so I can decide which one to play with is something that really excites me. I will store them in a hamster cage taking away their humanity. Making them defecate and pee in a corner awaiting their time to play. And multiple size play with my harem.
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It stems from my interest in tall humanoid male characters especially from anime, and I imagine myself being held in the hand of a sexy giant demon husbando. Being licked and then swallowed whole by said husbando, and kept safe in his stomach.
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@thumbloverver2 I’ve thought about the hamster cage situation in some stories I’ve read, if you’re taking away humanity and giving humiliation it’s the way to go. I prefer a terrarium or enclosed dollhouse, so ants, roaches and spiders stay out, I don’t like pests with my SWs LOL.
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@cygnusjkins13 although I’m not into hard Vore the licking and holding a SW is so exciting. Ok why is his stomach a safe place when that is where digestion occurs or does it not in your imagination? I’m just asking to understand why you prefer Vore to being cuddled or something else. I just want your Vore POV.
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@giant-me I’m not into fatal vore so I don’t have digestion in my drawings, and I see vore as a comfort kink, like getting a hug from all surroundings and feeling like a bed but wet. I guess it stems from my exposure to endo scenes in different shows/movies that I watched when I was younger.
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@cygnusjkins13 Endosoma sounds are the best. I often fall asleep to them.
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@cygnusjkins13 Thanks for your reply, it helps me understand your kink better, and what it makes you feel.
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@olo Kind of like listening to whale sounds, instead stomach gurgles and heart beats, speaking of that, I enjoy soft moans, breathing, and heart sounds, like laying with a sex partner during cuddling with your head to their chest or stomach.
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Well, lets see if I communicate this clearly.
I think I like the unnatural control of the Big/small dynamic. A situation that even in a mutual respect situation the larger will still have more control. Only in very limited situations would the small would have control. A Shrunken woman in a man’s fist is at his mercy. His to do with as he likes. I think that it has a lot to do with the fact I’ve never had much control in my life. That the idea of being a titan before someone is appealing.
Now I’m not a dom in real life. I’m uncomfortable being in charge of anything. I too am an equilest. Both people in a relationship have to be at the same level. I think that’s why I like the term partner over Boy/girlfriend/Wife/husband.
Now that doesn’t mean all my writings are big man uses little woman. But, yeah, most are at some level. I do include F/f, but that’s not really an interest of mine. Heck, I have many scenes of the tiny enjoying the giant’s attentions. But I think that’s from my delight at pleasuring a woman.
Hope that makes sense?
As for aspects I enjoy/use:
Hand play: I like it when a guy strokes a shrunken woman. Admires them as the lovely little being they are. Some of the more enjoyable scenes I’ve written are of a giant almost massaging the tiny woman’s naked form.
Mouthplay: Orally exploring the tiny woman’s body. Suckling their legs (Funny enough, I’m not a feet guy), breasts, and so on. Sexually licking the tiny woman. Lapping along her womanhood. Using the texture and mass of a giant tongue to stimulate her into a satisfied stupor.
Cock play: Having the tiny woman work their form along the manhood. Stroking with their legs while the rub their busts into the sensitive skin. Or with more selfish man, wrapping the helpless tiny woman around their hardened shaft and stroking the tiny body along as they want.
I’m sure there are more, just can’t think of more. Man, I sound like a monster don’t I?
Now for other things. I understand vore. The power of it. The containment of it for some. But, I too see it as an end. And therefore wasteful. I’ve used it and will use it in stories. And honestly, at times, have been aroused at the idea. But mostly, its to remove unwanted tiny women from the wanted tiny women.
Footplay, no. But I just don’t like feet. I’m the same with feces. Strangely I do use urinating on tinies, but it’s to degrade/lessen the target more then any sexual desire. Make them seem even less then human in the character’s mind.
Insertion: Only in F/f style scenes. And usually non-fatal. Entrapment but not deadly crushing mostly. Like the F is being intensely stimulated by the f squirming inside their pussy.
Well, I should stop rambling. I hope I haven’t offended anyone. This is an opinion request so no one is wrong. Just different likes.
Questions?
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