Posts made by littlest-lily

Yeah, I fall under the “it depends” camp too.

So my personal situation with that is - I started RPing when I was still single. To be honest, despite doing quite a bit of it I can probably count the occasions that I enjoyed it on one hand, most of the time it was unsatisfying at best and downright traumatizing at worst (whether it was with actual creeps/assholes, or with perfectly nice dudes where our interests just didn’t align quite right and it’s no one’s fault). Because of that, it wasn’t very hard for me to decide to temporarily stop RPing when I started dating my partner, since I did feel uncomfortable doing it without telling him. Soon enough I told him about my kink, and while we explored it together, it still wasn’t quite the same as a roleplay with someone who “gets it,” so to speak.

Eventually enough time passed that I was feeling the urge to try RPing online again (the number of times where it was like “oh, this one might have potential!” kept drawing me back lol). So I broached the subject with my partner about that exact question - “does RP count as cheating?” And I do think that might be the most important factor, the way both people feel about it as a couple. It’s like with other boundaries outside of RPing - everyone will have different past experiences, different limits, different definitions of cheating, etc. He and I discussed it at length, like “does THIS feel like it would be too far past the line? what about this?”, and I showed him some examples from past RPs. I’m lucky that he’s supportive and trusting so it wasn’t an issue for us. (And then when I did try RPing again and kept getting similarly disappointed I decided it wasn’t really my thing after all and I don’t really do it anymore lol, it sorta became a moot point)

There are so many factors to consider like… Are you RPing with one person and are developing a deep emotional connection with them? Is the RP utilizing characters in third person, or are you playing yourself? How frequent are the RPs? Are they solely in writing or do they involve voice chat or anything else? These kinds of details could affect what the couple is comfortable doing. My general gauge that I went by (outside of the discussion with my partner) was to ask myself “How do I feel about this right now? Does this feel wrong to me?” instead of solely thinking “Would my partner be upset if he saw this?”

I’d certainly be curious to see other people’s take on this!

@SmolChlo Yessss thrill rides on the daily

S+P 44 - Intrusive Thoughts Strike Again

@blehb Seconded! A beautiful elf man would be very much up my alley

In any case would prefer anything that’s not orc/goblin/etc. I feel like so often (mostly talking mainstream stuff here) giants are portrayed as big ugly ogres, which does nothing for me personally.

@SmolChlo Eeee best of luck telling him, from the sound of things I think he’ll find it cute! The security system story filled me with so much joy you have no idea (and also is giving me ideas…)

@Olo Oh, trust me I get it, like I said I was SUPER uncomfortable in the moment. It was very much not a great thing for him to say, size kink or no (So I figure it probably goes without saying but let me be clear - please don’t do something like that, fellas)

@blehb OH MAN I feel like this has happened to me quite a bit actually. I’m 5’2" so more often than not I’m the shortest one in the room, and I’m fairly petite (even used to be a bit underweight back when I was younger and super stressed with school) so that has certainly attracted the occasional comment on my small-ness. Here are a few specific stories that I remember so vividly…

At a company event we did a murder mystery type thing, and I got picked as one of the suspects. The organizer guy made me stand up from my seat and conspiratorially asked the crowd “what’s the first thing you think when you see this person?” And then all 50+ people looked at little ole me and just cooed “aaawwwww.” It was kinda hilarious actually, and not necessarily sizey, but from what I understood the guy picked me because I was small/innocent looking (which made for a fun suspect) and it certainly gave me the warm and fuzzies~

I had a coworker who made a couple of pretty direct comments. One time there was another coworker there with us, and she told the other person (talking about me), “isn’t she cute? I just want to put her in my pocket!” Another time I had been out sick for a while, and when I came back to the office and told her why I was gone she was like “noooo, you’re too little to get the flu!” (I have no idea what that means but got a kick out of it nonetheless)

The most egregious one was when I went to see a doctor to get a strep test. It was at this little clinic at my work place, so not my regular doctor. I was already sitting on the medical table thing when he came in, and we do the whole appointment. Afterwards I hopped off the table, and once he saw me standing the guy kinda frowned down at me and asked “how tall are you again?” I answer him, and I’ll never forget it, he said “I feel like I’m towering over you” and proceeds to intentionally loom a little bit (he was like a foot taller than me). He wasn’t even being all jokey and silly about it, he said it so deadpan. I’ll be honest, in the moment I was actually really uncomfortable being alone in the room with this man, it felt like a rather unprofessional comment from a doctor. But once I was safe and sound and knew I’d never see him again, I kept wondering to myself “is he one of us???” (I feel like there’s no way he has a size kink because surely he wouldn’t have been able to comment on it so easily if he did, but who knows! Was that one of you?? Out with it! lol)

And then I do have to mention my husband, back in the early days of dating before I told him about any of this. He’s exactly a foot taller, and he’s a sweetheart so I think he was specifically trying not to be condescending or anything. But I remember being in a crowd trying to look at something, and of course I couldn’t see. He said, “ahh, yeah, I don’t want to poke fun at your height but…”, then crouched to be at my level and see what I see and cringed sympathetically. Meanwhile internally I was like “no, please poke fun, you have no idea” hahaha. Of course, now that he knows about this side of me he teases me about it on the daily. Let me tell ya, it’s especially fun when we’re with a group of people and my height (or anything sizey) comes up in the group and he can give me a knowing grin while not having to say anything

Ahhh thanks guys This one was a challenge with the POV stuff and it’s very self indulgent and cheesy but I try to embrace that side of myself sometimes

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@Olo Good point. But no thank you

I’m actually not sure how common/uncommon this is, but for me personally (more often than not), I’d prefer nothing goes actually inside . Which is perfect since at the sizes I prefer, not much would fit anyway~

@Mrgoblinging7 AbsoLUTELY not. Not to yuck anyone’s yum of course, it’s all fantasy, but most of the stuff that I see get shoved inside of SW sound like absolute nightmares to me haha. Fingers, though…

@blehb Yo that was a good catch on his part!