@skysayl said:
Get a male friend to preread and draw attention to this specific aspect. I’m sure they would be happy to help you with the accuracy. I love when someone corrects me somewhere I don’t have the expertise in, just makes the writing better.
Ahaha yes, that would be the easiest route. I’ll have to sort out my many other confidence issues 
but for now will settle on reading other works, or asking my partner “so what your peen do when…?” And taking notes.
@TakoAlice8 I say this coming from a drawing and writing background, can’t say much for animation. For me, the creative drive comes and goes. Creating takes work: some days it’s easier, a lot of the time though, it takes and effort. It can be exhausting. Countering the perfectionism is only a small part of the problem, I think. But I don’t mean to make is sound all “gloom and doom” though; I just mean that you’re not alone.
It’s hard to not already “love the process” - you wouldn’t be wanting to create otherwise (unless you’re being forced to, but that’s a different issue). So rather than seeking to “fall in love with the process”, it’s worth being patient and, I guess, let the magic happen when it happens. Don’t force yourself, lest you get frustrated. But don’t give up entirely: fill the time by doing something else - something small, or something unrelated to your current project, even if it’s just practising for yourself. Every little bit of work you do is progress, for the term short term and long term, and contributes to your process.
@littlest-lily said in Out of their Element:
Like a worm.
An appropriate question to ask is: would he love you if you were a worm?
Thanks for posting this, @littlest-lily ! I’m very excited to see where it heads 
lovely, engaging writing. Just chef kiss
@Olo there’s no pleasing entitlement.
@foreverlurk Ignoring and blocking is a very fine approach to dealing with…hm, inappropriately forward people. I doubt you’ll miss them. They can perish in their abundance of Fm/SM content. However you decide to address them (or not!), don’t let them get you down. Plenty of others appreciate you sharing some pretty cool Mf/SW AI content.
@littlest-lily said in Out of their Element:
Time freezes for a moment. In the split second before I manage to scream, my eyes widen as I’m thrown into terrified confusion.
I come for the giants, I stay for the trauma.
But also I hope Evie gets some love and care after this. Poor thing 
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This comic distracted me for DAYS. God, it’s done so well. I wasn’t a big fan of Astarion before, but this made me ease up on him and give him a chance (I know the comic isn’t canon, but that dialogue 🤌)
@blehb (no apology needed, I’m glad you’re enjoying it! 
There’s no pressure to interact, that was just a fun little addition to make it feel a bit more like a public reach-out. It’s already ~95% written with enough flexibility/vaguery to accommodate responses to build into the base)
@Olo said:
This makes me wonder if Colliaz wasn’t, in fact, a victim of DA’s notorious practice of deleting size kink accounts without warning.
Same. Not going to try to psychologise, but they weren’t in a good headspace, poor thing.
@foreverlurk said:
Does “Deactivated” means the same thing as “Deleted”, on Deviantart? Fuck if she’s been taken down we ALL could.
I think, like social media accounts, DA doesn’t allow users to delete their accounts, but you can deactivate instead. Similar with submissions: I tried to do the same with my old account some time ago and they made it VERY hard for me to delete my own art - I had to opt for “archiving” or something that essentially made it unavailable for viewing by anybody (regardless of whether they saved it in their favs or had a link to it). It still remain on DA’s servers though, I guess. Likely something in the fineprint under and ownership clause, etc. It did the job, but I was/am still miffed about it.
I wasn’t planning on doing a follow-up post, to keep things open-ended. @SmolChlo @foreverlurk @blehb I loved each of your responses individually, and as a collective of the main verdicts! 
@skysayl said:
If you haven’t yet had the pleasure of reading this lovely story, or just want to hear me somehow make it more
, then allow me to read it for you…
I’ve gushed before, I’ll gush again: she absolutely nails it 🥰
@littlest-lily said:
I’d love to back up locally but I’m not even sure how to do that since I don’t have Microsoft Office…
This article also rattled me when I found out about it. I don’t think there’s a straight alternative/dupe of Google docs that there’s a big consensus on.
If you’re just after a word processor, you’ve got things as simple as Notepad to something more feature-rich as Scrivener (it’s not free, but is a one-off payment and you can install on multiple devices). WordPad would have been my go-to if I didn’t have Word, but I believe it has been discontinued. LibreOffice Writer has also been rated quite well as a free processor that you can download and work on remotely.
It gets more complicated if you’re looking to collaborate and/or keep files saved on the cloud.
This person suggests a few options which could be worth a try. MS Word Online is also free to use and doesn’t require a subscription. For cloud storage alone, Dropbox is pretty reliable, widely used and the free storage tier would probably be adequate if it’s just for documents.
I’m fortunate to have one of my best friends being into size stuff and we constantly share scenarios, ideas, creative projects etc. Very, very few of my friends know otherwise, and those I’ve told years ago have probably forgotten (or I like to believe that they think I’ve moved on from it all - that’s what I tell them anyway).
My ex knows, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s used it to paint me as some weirdo to mutuals, including to others in our profession - bit of a concern when the national field is rather small - but 
what can you do?
I shared recently with my current partner: aside from him just being amazing anyway, I was spared a lot of additional embarassment with a simple acknowledgement and some general follow-up questions. Not in an apathetic way either, he could tell I was sharing something really personal and was already uncomfortable. It makes me giddy when he reminds me that I (5’3") am small compared to him (6’2")
@FairyFanatic thank you! I’ll happily share if I create anymore, writing or drawing