Posts made by tiny-ivy

@i-am-insane thank you for your perspective.

It’s strange, the way individual men are socialized in the private sphere by most parents and peers really is destructive and dehumanizing to them as people. The private sphere being how we get along with others and ourselves. Our relationships and emotions, that only we and our friends and family see…

But then there’s How men are traditionally seen in the public sphere, in business and politics. Men still are trusted more as business leaders and political leaders. Even today. Just imagine another woman running for president. That probably won’t happen for a while.
Traits associated with masculinity like logic and assertiveness are still positively viewed by most people for leaders, while traits associated with femininity like emotion and collaboration are still seen as negative for leaders.

No wonder so many men are so obsessed with status. Running a company or being a senator seem to be the only ways to be valued as a man. Whereas women, who are taught from birth to gain their value in the private sphere, from friends and loved ones, can just live happier lives, even if they don’t become as financially successful.

What a fucking mess. As annoyed as I get by my female body sometimes, I really feel like I dodged a bullet by not going through masculine puberty and male socialization as a kid. It looks hellish in an even worse way than what I went through as a “female”. The only way I would feel comfortable getting past a role like that would be shedding gender norms like, well, like a nonbinary person.

The straight male role looks like a collar buttoned so tight it cuts off circulation at your neck, but without the possibility of taking it off at the end of the work day. You slip for one moment, and you’re mocked and put down, even as an adult. I hope you guys can take that too-tight shirt off, one’s masculinity is one’s own to invent. Whatever you like about yourself is your positive side - traditionally masculine or not.

@i-am-insane said in Sex Objects:

@kisupure
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There’s a reason it’s called toxic masculinity, after all. Men aren’t supposed to have ‘feelings’, only pride.

Oh, dear. That phrase never should have escaped the sociology courses it was invented in.

Academic rant incoming…

Sorry if I am misinterpreting your post, but it sounds like you’re saying that masculinity is called toxic by that phrase.

Toxic masculinity is supposed to be a subset of masculinity. The phrase isn’t supposed to suggest that men are toxic. It’s about how men are a victim of the patriarchy, too, just in different ways than women.
Toxic masculinity is, indeed, the traits you’re taught by the patriarchy (including by traditional culture and traditional religions) that reduce you to nothing more than status, violence, and sex. “Boys will be boys.” “Boys don’t cry.” “Suck it up.” “Stop talking about your feelings, what are you, a girl?”
That bullshit. Locker room crap. Dehumanizing to all men.
It was described by sociologists as a thing that men can get past, for their own good, and for everybody’s good, because men more in touch with their feelings, and more confident about themselves as caregivers, would make themselves much happier, and, in theory also reduce the amount of destructive interactions they would have with each other and with women.

It’s really sad that men’s rights activists nowadays are just scumbags who hate women. There was a brief moment in the '80s, around the time this phrase was invented, when men started a men’s liberation movement to try to teach each other to get over this harmful cultural programming. But then the internet came around and ruined that.

What would be an alternative masculinity? A positive masculinity? Great question. I’m sure you have ideas there.

There is a self-help group of men who focus on this a lot, called the Mankind Project. I have a friend who swears by it. There are also some mainstream authors like Michael Ian Black who explore this.

Wow, we get deep here, in the forum about science fiction fetishes.

@bigcuddlygiant You’re so great at these! Aaah, such a sweet and relatable fantasy.

@giant-keith Samhain is the more serious holiday, and it’s mostly about talking to the dead, so no, as a neopagan myself, I don’t look forward to it the way a Christian looks forward to Christmas.

I also completely love Halloween though, because I adore wearing costumes. It’s transformation in real life for a night, and unlike cosplay, it’s something an entire city is doing at once. Love the wildness, the Bacchanal. That’s Halloween, though, it’s not Samhain.

I looked forward to Christmas as a kid because my family celebrated that, but Yule is more serious than Christmas, it’s more about life coming back to the land, slowly.

What the Christians are really missing out on is Beltaine. Maypoles are fun, and that holiday is all about the screwing. There’s nothing like that on the Christian calendar. Easter is kinda close to the same time, but it doesn’t have a giant phallic symbol in the middle.

@olo yep! And before that, Dracula (the original fuckable monster), King Kong, Creature from the Black Lagoon, a buncha werewolf movies, etc, etc. This is my sexual studies thesis and I’m sticking to it.

I find that in my enjoyment of size content, the quality and skill of the work matter more to me than whether or not the male porny gaze is obvious. And it is obvious, of course, but that’s fine. If it’s well done, it’s still hot.

Someone else said, their first audience when they write is themselves. I am the same. I have various hobbies, size writing being just one of them, and there are periods (like right now) when I’m not actively working on my macro writing. When I get back to it, I feel drawn by like this call that, “more hot stories about M/f giants have to be written - it’s still so underserved!”

In my M/f stories, I am writing for the sake of the people who see themselves as tiny women first, because that is usually the way I relate to these scenes, and, because I love encouraging tiny women to get more into it. I am glad that straight men enjoy my content as well, it’s always nice to have one’s work appreciated.

There have to be more women out there with this kink, who would be the ones who write less male-gazey-erotica, but I think a lot of them get instead drawn to the realistic-giant size range that’s well served by popular erotic fiction about werewolves and sasquatches, and call themselves monster fuckers, instead. If you’ve ever asked “Where are the women macrophiles”, my theory is, that’s where.

@technomage this is great! Thanks for sharing!

@diminution-man I was just thinking, at 2-3 inches tall, mine would be blackberry arils, the little individual bumpy segments.

@giant-keith omg Tank Girl would make an amazing Tiny. That adventure would fit right into the comics! Wish I was a faster artist cause I would love to draw that out

@olo oh my, this is a fun start. You could show them your religion’s version of taking communion at the very end. Or at least threaten it.

Great… Now my brain’s already running away down a path. I’m picturing a Satanic sorcerer, who’s read Lavey, who has rituals with phrases about being our own gods. What’s the fun with being your own god if you don’t have mortals to grovel at your feet, though?

@i-am-insane this would be wonderful, BUT, I’d personally have narrative tension in my mind until the hand and the giant owner are reunited. I want to know if the giant was aware of all that and if this now much larger creature is still so smitten or sweet.

@olo please, drink the whole glass up…!

@bigcuddlygiant I love this, and I’m glad you picked him to pair with and not the turtles - those weird turtle faces are creepy!

I was thinking recently of a shrinking virus scenario. A normal-sized couple that is genetically immune to its effects decides to turn their loft apartment into a refuge for shrunken people abandoned by their family, or who wanted to live with a group of other tinies instead of just their normal-sized family members. The tinies who move in are actually respected by the couple, and never have to pay a huge city rent again, because between all of them, their various artistic hustles more than cover the cost of the place.
The couple enjoys building elaborate sanitation and electrical systems, and beautiful buildings, and the tinies actually form a functional community. They make money by posting videos about it that go viral on YouTube. A new form of collaboration between bigs and smalls is invented here that leads to other tiny-rights’ activists starting more colonies like this, some in full-sized houses, eventually populated by hundreds of littles.

@hentaihunter1 I love this. I love the action of course, very hot, but I also love the alien perspective and the matter-of-fact style. It reminds me a little of Ray Bradbury, one of my favorite writers.