Sizeplay ideas for couples
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This has been on my mind for a while, in the off chance that there are others interested in exploring this topic. A while back I read Jitensha’s kink resource and loved it! It helped me better understand myself and begin to internally explore some of the possibilities of incorporating sizeplay into my relationship.
But when I got to some of the parts about roleplaying in the bedroom I was like “oof… There’s just no way.” And not because I don’t have a partner who’s willing to experiment with the size kink, but because I would feel way too self conscious. Even something as simple as closing my eyes and pretending that the palm of his hand is actually a giant fingertip, I just feel way too embarrassed, no matter how much we might discuss it ahead of time or commit to a judgement-free zone in the bedroom. And maybe that’s okay, it’s probably not for everyone! But it did get me to think about it - could I maybe find some baby steps to try out first, ones that didn’t feel so daunting? Or find other ideas that would work better for me personally in engaging with this fantasy with my partner?
I would love any thoughts you guys might have for this brainstorm. But I thought I’d also offer some ideas of my own to start with - some of these I’ve actually tried and some of them are just thoughts.
The first list are the more innocent/wholesome ideas, meant for outside of the bedroom but could also work as foreplay.
- Indulge in collecting miniatures, or the opposite (I call them maxiatures). You don’t even need a partner for this one! But they can certainly participate.
- Whatever creatively fulfills you, one partner can make it for the other. Draw art, write stories, etc
- Play sizey games together. Things like Grounded or It Takes Two for video games, or incorporate it into a TTRPG like D&D.
- Play a sizey VR game. This does come with a heavy price tag for the hardware (the Quest 2 is currently about $200, and if you want to do it together you’ll need 2 systems). I recommend trying the desktop version of VRChat (it’s free on Steam) before investing in a VR headset. But there’s nothing quite like VR to simulate the size difference.
- Watch sizey movies or shows together and have dedicated discussions about them to see what the other liked.
- Make silly pictures to text to each other. For example, my partner sometimes takes pictures from afar where he’s pretending to hold me with forced perspective. Or I use photo editing or a figurine as my stand in.
- Text size art the other person might like to each other
- Roleplay via text. Can just be more subtle implications like “argh I’m tired, can I have a pocket nap?” or actual roleplay “Tugs on your finger Cuddles please!”, down to full paragraphs and stories and whatever else might be fun.
- Leave little gifts for each other. Like making them a very very tiny sandwich as a snack 🤭
- There might be some little gestures that get the sizey feels going. It’s harder for me to brainstorm for anyone who wants to feel big, but things that make me feel small include wearing a jacket of his, laying my head in his lap, or instead of him holding my hand have him hold just one finger (to real feel more of that all-encompassing nature of the grasp).
And then these ideas are a bit less innocent and more steamy~
- Simply change positions, no roleplay necessary. The “Small” kneels while the “Big” stands, Big sits on the bed while Small sits on the floor, Small lays on the ground while Big stands over them (maybe gently pinning them with a foot), Small lays down in bed while Big straddles and looms overhead, etc. None of these are meant to fully trick the brain into believing there’s a major size difference, but it can still help in connecting with the sizey feels.
- Roleplay on easy mode. Maybe start with something that’s not too out of the norm. Perhaps one pretends to not be feeling well and the other pampers them. Or one offers the other a massage and the only “pretending” involved is that you’re at a professional massage place. Then maybe eventually build up to something like pet play but without size being a factor, and so on. I would really love more individual ideas on this if anyone has them! (Right now even the idea of classic roleplay scenarios make me cringe, much less shrinky ones…)
- Perhaps some very light BDSM elements (or not so light if that’s your thing.) So not necessarily anything too intense if you’re like me and need those baby steps, but perhaps the Big requests the Small to wear a certain outfit and then rewards them for their obedience, or maybe play around with containment methods. This isn’t necessarily sizey, but the D/s dynamics could overlap with the sizeplay, so it might be worth exploring.
- Discussing scenarios. Instead of actually acting something out, you can say “What if this thing happened?” “Well then I would do this”
- Get a small figurine or something as the stand in for the Small. The Big doesn’t necessarily need to act out a whole scene with it, but maybe just having a prop to play around with could help.
- Shadow puppets. Projecting a giant hand on the ceiling or something - again, no RP necessary, can just be silly about it.
- Looking at art/videos together. Sometimes I actually like showing my partner things I’m NOT really into (but are still sizey), so that we can have a little giggle about it and it doesn’t feel quite as much like I’m baring my soul. And then sometimes I get the courage to show him stuff I really like.
That’s all I’ve got for now! I can share more if I think of them and appreciate any of your thoughts~
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@littlest-lily Something my wife and I do occasionally:
We’ll go to a restaurant and we’ll bring 3 sets of high heels and clothes. Over the course of the night, she will go to the bathroom and swap to progressively bigger clothes and smaller heels, creating the illusion that she’s shrinking -
If we’re both relaxing on the couch or in bed I’ll ask him to lay on top of me lol With his full body weight on me and my face pressed into his back I’m pretty much immobilized but I do get to enjoy the sound of his heartbeat, the vibrations from his voice when he talks and obviously the best part… I’m completely surrounded by his warmth and scent. I keep my eyes closed and just imagine that I’m tiny and latched onto him somewhere
or when he hugs me he’ll lift me up and squeeze really tight till my back pops and all the air is out of my lungs. Feels like I’m in his gigantic grasp
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@littlest-lily Soo many good ideas. I might have done every one on the “wholesome” list in one way or another, with the added difficulty of her being unaware of the real reasons behind my sizey gestures, comments, or interests. I can only dream of indulging in the less innocent list one day (Step 1 is to get myself a partner lol)
@Giant-Gripper I have to say I’m incredibly jealous.
Such a nice thing for her to do, I don’t know if your partner enjoys the kink too, but regardless it’s so very sweet of her to indulge you like this. She has probably no idea how such a simple, silly thing can work its way into our giant’s brains. I would be so 
@SmolChlo said in Sizeplay ideas for couples:
when he hugs me he’ll lift me up and squeeze really tight till my back pops and all the air is out of my lungs. Feels like I’m in his gigantic grasp
When I’m with someone smol (to me, so 5’2 and under) I can’t resist doing that lol. Lift/grab then squeeze, hearing the air leaving her (and the cute protests afterwards). “Stop it, put me down!”, then me proceeding to leave her on top of the fridge. Simple pleasures, yeah.
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Pardon me for upcoming crassness:
I used to love doing a lot of the things you listed here. Head in lap, forced perspective, being swept off my feet.
So, I used to have a set of veeerrry large clothes for exactly this purpose- whenever I threw them over myself and let them basically slip all the way off it drove him crazy
We occasionally would have sex while I was blindfolded, so I could reimagine certain sensations and touches as another body part. I’d imagine his entire torso was his cock, and trail kisses up and down, and for him it was easy to imagine a light touch on his abdomen just being all of me.
But- even with all of this the number one thing that worked every time? Dirty talk. Damn and double damn that got me going- especially blindfolded. Even just those little pet names- speck, little doll, ma petit bonbon- it was enough to give me tremors.
Also-- bondage? Bondage. Yas. You simply cannot understate the power of a sex swing with roleplay. Too easy to imagine him dangling you over his lips while he kisses you down under.
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@skysayl said in Sizeplay ideas for couples:
So, I used to have a set of veeerrry large clothes for exactly this purpose- whenever I threw them over myself and let them basically slip all the way off it drove him crazy
Me, reading this trying to have my Friday night beer:
I’m taking so many notes rn
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This is really stupid and not sexy at all, but it could be a cute idea. There’s tons of sizey stuff out there you could buy and have fun with. A blanket that looks like a tortilla, a donut pool float, a giant spoon.
One time I was holding this giant flower at a craft store and this girl was like “awww, you look like a fairy!” If only she knew how much she made my day!
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@blehb Ahem.
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@Olo Hey, even tiny ladies can have a heavy flow okay???
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@blehb Yeeeess I love my maxiatures! I have a few things and plan to continue collecting them, my go to being a blanket that looks like a giant leaf and a cushion that looks like a cherry blossom. Total fairy vibes when I cozy up with them.
I so so appreciate the additional ideas by the way!! Thanks everybody
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@littlest-lily Ohhh I see that’s what you meant by maxiatures! I love it. I’ll have to start using that term.
And those decorations sound so cute! Not just size-related, but I love whimsical decor. I’ve been wanting this ottoman that is shaped like a mushroom! Gonna try to DIY it eventually.
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@Olo ahhh yes ~ to be able to bleed freely on an enormous pad would be pure bliss. It’s funny bc all of my non-sizey friends talk about rolling around on a Giant pad too lol
