Personality in Fantasy vs IRL

Calypsa

I find it funny how, in size fantasies, I tend to behave very timidly and docilely, especially when it comes to fearplay and first encounter scenarios. Whereas in reality, I tend to be more self-assured - but throw a giant into the mix, and suddenly I’m a flustered mess. I imagine the dissonance must be even more interesting from the giant’s perspective; you might be a totally respectful person IRL, but then find yourself feeling unusually forward, teasing, or even cruel when imagining tiny women. Does anybody else experience this?

Jötunn

@Calypsa said in Personality in Fantasy vs IRL:

you might be a totally respectful person IRL, but then find yourself feeling unusually forward, teasing, or even cruel when imagining tiny women

That’s me

The Big G

Reality I’m a wreck of a person fantasy I’m self assured and confident I feel the difference between the two mes is that fantasy me is just me without the baggage

Calypsa

@The-Big-G That’s fair. It’s interesting how the fantasy feels liberating whether it’s through vulnerability or a boost of confidence.

HHunter1

Yeah, I’m fairly shy and down on myself in person. So are a lot of my male characters in stories I write. I think my biggest different is I usually write giants (Full Sized men) as villains. Selfish and usually a touch cruel. Even the “Nice guys” bigs in my stories I usually view them as villains. I guess in real life I’m not as perverse and kinder then they are.

At least that’s what I make my pets tell me.

HH1

Calypsa

@HHunter1 I really like that dichotomy though! I think it’s strangely sort of sweet when giants who are normally kind and reserved eventually give in to their urges with the SW because they just can’t help themselves.

HHunter1

@Calypsa
Well, I have all kinds of that. Glad I can entertain, even if its just the concept people like.

HH1

Calypsa

@HHunter1 Is there a certain type of ‘villain’ you gravitate to?

HHunter1

@Calypsa
No, not really. Though many main male character from my stories do tend to lean in the Incel with a shrink ray. Some claim to just be looking for company, others outright feel the deserve to own a woman, and others blame the shrunken for the situation. I think I chose that concept because its easiest to see them excusing kidnapping and assaulting a girl.

But I also had openly greedy and cruel. Whole organizations that gave themselves the right to own people. Even reluctant giants that allow themselves to slip up and indulge only to like it too much to give up.

For me it just makes it easier for them to be villains since they tend to do such villainous things. (Kidnapping, SA, and occasionally vore.)

HH1

Olo

@Calypsa

My M/f persona (“Tolo”) is significantly different than irl Olo. Tolo understands and appreciates the argument that tinies are owed the same dignity, respect, and autonomy as full-size people, but he isn’t very scrupulous about observing those principles in practice. While he takes pride in getting to know the shrunken ladies in his custody and seeing that they are not deprived, he seeks such familiarity primarily to better manipulate his tiny guests.

Tolo always prioritizes his own desires and his favorite vices are lust and gluttony. I like to say that being giant means never having to say you’re sorry, and Tolo allows me to indulge my baser impulses. He thinks every shrunken woman has her own delightful fragrance and taste, and he hopes to sample all of them.

If Tolo discerns that a particular tiny lady responds well to bullying, fearplay, or even abuse he will use that to his advantage. He’s not a sadist, but he is a selfish manipulator. This is the last thing I would want to be seen as irl.

Olo

Tolo grabs without asking.

Olo can barely work up the courage to ask.

Calypsa

@Olo May Olo have a modicum of the confidence that Tolo has

i am insane

I’ve said before, but I like humiliation, I like to make women beg. I want them cower before me, and be too afraid to even say my name, even as the desperately scramble to please me.

That said, in RL I just like it when people are happy, and all I really want to do cuddle, and just have some physical contact. I have the energy of one of those giant herbivores that just does not give a single solitary shit because there’s not it has to give a shit about, so the people can touch it and be relatively safe ever as the carnivores don’t dare to test it. And honestly? A lot of the stuff to assert authority and all that just sounds… kind of annoying to do?

foreverlurk

I’ve already answered that one on Reddit

I’m not dominant IRL. I’m a shy, introverted guy, always have, always been (to an extreme as a child, which lead to bullying and other unfun things). But seriously, that’s like… 90% of the reason why I enjoy the fantasy of shrinking women down - in my mind, when they are vulnerable, I can become confident with them, someone in charge, in control, and/or protective and assertive.

If you knew me IRL, you could never guess that I hide a dominant side.

I’m pretty sure the idea of shrinking someone, making them smaller, vulnerable, was born as a cope for my IRL social anxiety, introversion and extreme shyness. Imagining a place where I’m in control, confident, where I’m in charge, and having someone to care for and protect, is all that I’m lacking IRL. A shrunken woman can be my toy, a comfort plushie, a friend, a lover… And it’s always been a source of comfort to me, and the secret place my mind goes to unwind.

Calypsa

@foreverlurk I get what you’re saying. It’s funny, I partially associate this fantasy with my own social struggles from childhood too, I wanted to imagine that someone who could hurt me so easily would somehow choose not to. I think it’s kind of beautiful how it’s like a shared desire for safety that manifests in opposite ways.