Personality in Fantasy vs IRL
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I’ve said before, but I like humiliation, I like to make women beg. I want them cower before me, and be too afraid to even say my name, even as the desperately scramble to please me.
That said, in RL I just like it when people are happy, and all I really want to do cuddle, and just have some physical contact. I have the energy of one of those giant herbivores that just does not give a single solitary shit because there’s not it has to give a shit about, so the people can touch it and be relatively safe ever as the carnivores don’t dare to test it. And honestly? A lot of the stuff to assert authority and all that just sounds… kind of annoying to do?
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I’ve already answered that one on Reddit
I’m not dominant IRL. I’m a shy, introverted guy, always have, always been (to an extreme as a child, which lead to bullying and other unfun things). But seriously, that’s like… 90% of the reason why I enjoy the fantasy of shrinking women down - in my mind, when they are vulnerable, I can become confident with them, someone in charge, in control, and/or protective and assertive.
If you knew me IRL, you could never guess that I hide a dominant side.
I’m pretty sure the idea of shrinking someone, making them smaller, vulnerable, was born as a cope for my IRL social anxiety, introversion and extreme shyness. Imagining a place where I’m in control, confident, where I’m in charge, and having someone to care for and protect, is all that I’m lacking IRL. A shrunken woman can be my toy, a comfort plushie, a friend, a lover… And it’s always been a source of comfort to me, and the secret place my mind goes to unwind.
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@foreverlurk I get what you’re saying. It’s funny, I partially associate this fantasy with my own social struggles from childhood too, I wanted to imagine that someone who could hurt me so easily would somehow choose not to. I think it’s kind of beautiful how it’s like a shared desire for safety that manifests in opposite ways.
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@i-am-insane The herbivore comparison made me laugh. And yeah, the cuddly, wholesome stuff probably holds the greatest appeal to me too, whether in fantasy or reality.
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@Calypsa people that say herbivores are safe have never worked around horses or cows just because they don’t want to eat you don’t mean they aren’t happy to fuck you up because it’s a Tuesday
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It depends on the species. Hippos will kill you just to watch you die.
Ironically, predators have to measure out how they fight more, since if they get injured they can’t catch their food. Not having to hunt down their meals means that stronger herbivores have a lot more freedom to be violent on demand.
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This topic is a little old, but the board seems quiet like folks have moved on to other place and I figure I might as well see who is still listening.
Dominant is a weird word. It can mean simply extroverted, it can mean “likes to lead when dancing,” and it can mean “ties you up until you say Rumpelstiltskin.”
I am a strong extrovert and would be even more so if I felt people would receive it well. If I could, I’d be Brian Blessed or John Rhys Davies. But I dial myself down all the time and I test to see what people are comfortable with and try to give them their own personalized volume level. I have to spend a lot of time being “quiet” around certain people. I bet they think I’m an introvert, just because I’ve noticed that’s the volume of me they prefer.
How does this work in fantasy? There is nothing that gives me pleasure more than giving fulfilling their fantasy. I happen to like M/f fantasy and other related stuff like flattening, but it is all about leaning into the play.
When I know what a person likes, I dial it in to that level and savor their experience. It doesn’t even have to be more than PG if that’s what makes them happy. (I do have limits, but mostly I don’t like actual pain in the script. Chewing a tiny woman to death? No, but chewing a woman who has been turned into chewing gum who experiences it as pleasure? Yes.)
If I dominate them that’s because that’s how loud they want it. I feel it through them. It takes requires being focused and attentive, but that’s the fun of it.
So, I suppose I’m the same everywhere because I’m different everywhere, depending on the person I’m with and what they want.
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@xformbob said in Personality in Fantasy vs IRL:
This topic is a little old, but the board seems quiet like folks have moved on to other place and I figure I might as well see who is still listening.
A community needs a certain critical mass of people to be active; people responding to people sparking responses and so on. Our community is so small and have to be quiet about or interests so we have trouble keeping forums active in the way another fetish does, but people will keep tabs as long as it remains around.
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