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@miss-lillipants Oh yes, I agree with all of this 100%! There’s definitely no single way for a kink to form, and I know there tends to be an issue with people assuming it forms from a negative experience. For me it’s both the fear aspect I was describing earlier and a comforting one. And sometimes it determines the type of fantasy I want to conjure up: do I want to bullied or doted on?

That’s a great article! I really love how it emphasized that these “kinks” can vary in how sexual they are. For some people it absolutely is a fetish, for others it’s more of a lifestyle. And I’m sure for many people it’s both. A huge amount of my size fantasies don’t involve sex at all.

@skysayl said in I found a crumb of M/f in a manga:

There was even a macrophile they interviewed who imagined herself as a tiny mouse to hide from everything that frightened her.

Relatable! The thought of being small or having someone take care of me was always very comforting. But that’s less “I’m attracted to my fear” and more “I’m attracted to how I cope with fears”.

Here’s a different perspective. I used to have A LOT of anxiety growing up, and anxiety is ALL about lacking control and certainty of the circumstances in your life. Well, having something much larger control your entire existence is the perfect manifestation of that fear. So I guess this theory tracks!

@i-am-insane I love bad horror movies too!

And by “bad” I really mean cheesy stuff that knows what it is. I don’t like giving people a hard time about something they put a lot of effort into. But in the instance of this manga, I’m pretty sure the author knows exactly what they’re doing and is shameless about it. Even in our community, we have tons of amazing content, but I think we’ve all been in a mood where we just want to read/write/draw pure filth.

Sorry, just wanted to clear that up so I didn’t sound so mean-spirited.

That is a fantastic meme. I do wonder about the connection between fear and sexuality in the brain. Sexual content in the context of horror makes sense; obviously sexual assault is frightening and nudity makes someone feel very vulnerable. Haven’t thought of the other way around too much, but fear has a major role within size play.

@Olo LOL. They are coworkers in an office- well into adulthood.

If the art threw you off their actions definitely would. They’re the dumbest characters ever. But reading really awful smut (of any kind) is a bit of a pastime for me. Even if I’m not into it, it can be interesting or make me laugh.

Was reading some trashy manga and found a nice image you all might appreciate~

Manga is called Tonari no Seki no Hen na Senpai. WARNING: If you decide to look it up, just know there’s like zero consent in this smut and it’s also really freaking stupid. I mean I enjoy that type of garbage but I know not everyone does.

This is also the only SW in the story. The actual dude is pretty tall but I know that doesn’t mean anything to us here.

@miss-lillipants I’ve actually been playing around with a similar story idea where the tiny doesn’t speak at all. They do understand the giant, but there’s still the obstacle of her trying to communicate. It creates a lot of interesting scenarios and I’ve really enjoyed brainstorming for it.

Now I actually have to write it.

@Olo I actually think almost all of these points wrap back around to the appeal of “femgaze” content. Like I said, I understand why some authors will leave out descriptions but I personally prefer the details and how they influence the scenario- and it seems like a lot of women in this thread agree (and men for that matter!).

Typically “malegaze” stories will focus on the attributes of the tiny woman, and “femgaze” of the giant man. Though I do think women are more likely to go into describing both, since we typically put more thought into our own looks.

And while it seems shallow to focus so much on appearances, it does make a difference no matter how you like your size content! In my experience it’s not even that I have one “type” of look I like to imagine. For example, I like my meaner giants to have a more pretty/beautiful man appearance. For the opposite, I’m into a more masculine and rugged look, like a true gentle giant. Idk why this is…

@miss-lillipants I prefer my giants to be conventionally attractive as well, but I have read some good stories that make the giant more on the “unhygienic/unattractive” side, I suppose. Seems to be a common humiliation aspect across the size community. Again, not really my thing, but I wanted to acknowledge the variety of stories out there.

Plus, beauty is subjective! Which is why I think some writers will leave out descriptions. They’ll imply the giant is attractive and what that means is up to you and your preferences. I do think there is a benefit to going into detail about physical descriptions though. Things like body hair, muscle mass, etc. obviously influence interactions on such a small scale.

(I totally agree with you on the ugly giant trope. I’ll hear about a piece of media that has giants in it and go to look and they’re definitely more on the monstrous side. I mean I’m not expecting the real world to cater to my strange little interests but c’mon. )

@Olo To add on to what others are saying, I feel like “femgaze” stuff tends to go out of its way to really describe the giant and things like his status, personality, level of attraction, etc. That tends to be ignored in “malegaze” content, which is understandable since the appeal comes from the shrunken woman.

And that’s not to say femgaze creators just focus on making the giant hot. There can be a lot of variation- the context and motive is what’s truly important. He could be a shy, nerdier guy desperate to have a certain woman to himself. Maybe he’s wealthy, powerful, and handsome- he doesn’t NEED to do the whole shrinking thing, but he does it purely because it’s enjoyable for him. Or maybe he’s just an average dude that’s just trying to help the best he can.

Of course, this can also apply to superficial things like hair and eye color and stuff. I love being able to visualize what the author is intending. But you can definitely leave physical descriptors open to interpretation as long as you convey things through his attitude and relationships.

@skysayl said in Disaster and confrontation:

Oh, that makes perfect sense. It’s another one of the reasons I hesitate, actually. There are definitely kinks involved every time I write, but sometimes they’re hidden behind a wall of buildup. I guess I enjoy it as a payoff, rather than instant gratification. I think I fall almost purely in femgaze for that reason alone lol

I’m sorry if I came across as sounding like people here wouldn’t enjoy the buildup. Quite the opposite - the buildup is everything to me! I feel the exact same way you do, so now I’m even more interested.

I was more implying that there will undoubtedly be readers who sexualize the content. If what you’re writing is important or therapeutic to you and you’re not comfortable with people doing that, then that’s totally understandable. I know most of the regulars here would be kind and respectful, but I think it’s good to be mindful or lurkers who might not be as considerate.

@skysayl said in Disaster and confrontation:

Seriously though, what is the appetite for trauma-genre? The discourse here is making me wonder if it would be worth putting it out there someday.

I think a lot of people would be interested, myself included. As long as it has the proper warnings and tags I don’t believe there would be an issue.

I think a lot of us have used this fantasy to cope with the various obstacles in life. I personally have a lot of story ideas that are on the heavier side.

But just keep in mind your own comfort with posting these types of things. The majority of this site is dedicated to the kink aspect of size content, so some readers might approach your story from that POV. Not trying to scare you away from sharing, but it’s good to be mindful of that.

@Nyx I imagine it looks like a jackhammer.

@Nyx Having the artist be so small in comparison would make for some bad ass tattoos. Unfortunately idk how deeply they would be able to penetrate the skin or how well the fine lines would age.

…Apparently out of everything here, this is what goes too far for my suspension of disbelief.

@Olo Honestly as long as stories regarding actual giants have those more intimate moments, it can have the same effect of a shrinking story. Like in Accommodations, they still spend time alone with Gorj in his cabin. But you still get that giant/human world building and large group interactions.

In fact, I find a giant coming to terms with his size to be more interesting than a tiny. But maybe I’m just biased towards the tiny’s situation…

@Olo Tinies always make the more relatable content to me. Stuff from giants tends to be more fascinating though, as their perspective is just so amazing to me.

Switches you get the best of both worlds.