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Yeah, I fall under the “it depends” camp too.

So my personal situation with that is - I started RPing when I was still single. To be honest, despite doing quite a bit of it I can probably count the occasions that I enjoyed it on one hand, most of the time it was unsatisfying at best and downright traumatizing at worst (whether it was with actual creeps/assholes, or with perfectly nice dudes where our interests just didn’t align quite right and it’s no one’s fault). Because of that, it wasn’t very hard for me to decide to temporarily stop RPing when I started dating my partner, since I did feel uncomfortable doing it without telling him. Soon enough I told him about my kink, and while we explored it together, it still wasn’t quite the same as a roleplay with someone who “gets it,” so to speak.

Eventually enough time passed that I was feeling the urge to try RPing online again (the number of times where it was like “oh, this one might have potential!” kept drawing me back lol). So I broached the subject with my partner about that exact question - “does RP count as cheating?” And I do think that might be the most important factor, the way both people feel about it as a couple. It’s like with other boundaries outside of RPing - everyone will have different past experiences, different limits, different definitions of cheating, etc. He and I discussed it at length, like “does THIS feel like it would be too far past the line? what about this?”, and I showed him some examples from past RPs. I’m lucky that he’s supportive and trusting so it wasn’t an issue for us. (And then when I did try RPing again and kept getting similarly disappointed I decided it wasn’t really my thing after all and I don’t really do it anymore lol, it sorta became a moot point)

There are so many factors to consider like… Are you RPing with one person and are developing a deep emotional connection with them? Is the RP utilizing characters in third person, or are you playing yourself? How frequent are the RPs? Are they solely in writing or do they involve voice chat or anything else? These kinds of details could affect what the couple is comfortable doing. My general gauge that I went by (outside of the discussion with my partner) was to ask myself “How do I feel about this right now? Does this feel wrong to me?” instead of solely thinking “Would my partner be upset if he saw this?”

I’d certainly be curious to see other people’s take on this!

@maladaptivetiny Since the Quest 3 came out, the Quest 2 is now relatively affordable… Just saying hehehe

@Olo HAHAHA I love the term “peek-a-boner”

This was a tough exchange. I hope Aiden finds the poise at some point to acknowledge that Evie, too, is missing out the pleasures of penetration.

If I may peek back the curtain a little bit… I actually agonized over that last little exchange up until the minute of posting it. Because Evie’s entirely worried about Aiden at the moment, but that “weighty pause” on his end was processing that exact thing you mentioned, at least to some degree (after all, he’s the one that has the kink, not her, so he’s not so bothered by the lack of penetrative sex). It felt like a natural thing for her to worry about after such a major “first”, but then I kept wondering if this was the point where they should have more of a serious conversation about it. But it wasn’t quite working and felt like too much, so both Aiden and I figured we’d put a pin in that lol. I figured I’d let them just have their moment now, and I found a spot in part 4 that I think will work better (hopefully! I have it mostly planned out but haven’t written it yet soooo)

Hahaha, it’s so much work for the tiny in these sex scenes, they are a trooper!! I actually don’t think this is the first time I’ve used that term either lol, I feel like I had Leo say it at one point too

@Mrgoblinging7 I’m just speaking for myself, but it can be a little bit of a hassle to post across a bunch of different places

I kinda want to delve a little bit more into the actual “deed” of RPing - and again this is going to be a different boundary for everyone. Because like… Does writing a steamy story count as cheating? Probably not. Does masturbating count as cheating? I think most folks would say no, not inherently. Does watching porn/looking at arousing images/reading sexy stories count as cheating? This starts already heading into a grey zone for some folks possibly. Does collaborating with someone as a beta reader for their erotic fiction count? What about brainstorming ideas with someone for a story? What about roleplaying in a way that’s not leading to masturbating but still gives you butterflies in your stomach? What’s worse, RPing to essentially give yourself porn to jack off to but otherwise having no connection with the person on the other side of the screen, or RPing in a way where there’s nothing titillating at all but it’s creating a deep emotional connection?

I don’t have a particular point here, other than I do think this is a nuanced enough thing to give it proper thought and have proper discussion within the couple about these kinds of details.

Something that helps me at times with this kinda of idea generating is to come up with a theme. So basing kaijus off of, say, the seven deadly sins. Or the circles of hell, or the stages of grief. There are so many options - the elements, the seasons, Western astrology zodiac, Chinese animal zodiac, colors of the rainbow, um… stages in the water cycle? Musical instruments? Breakfast cereals?? You get the picture. The theme could tie into the main plot and serve as some cool subtext for the themes of the story, or it can be just be an Easter egg, or the designs don’t even have to be recognizable to the theme at all but might just be a fun creative challenge for you to get some ideas flowing.

@Olo Wouldn’t it have been such a letdown if she just took a quick trip to the kitchen without incident?

I do feel like I need to do more art of this cast. I’m sure I’ll get there eventually~

@protect-tinies Yeah this one gives me a wave of anxiety ahhhh (in a good way~)

@foreverlurk Just for the record, I was posing the questions without any intent of passing judgement I’ve done some of the things I listed myself - for example, I may have stopped RPing but it’s not like I stopped looking at SW content altogether when I first started dating but hadn’t yet discussed all this stuff with him (and I’m pretty sure my hubby didn’t stop looking at certain types of content either before that point - and that never bothered either one of us). And despite having had the discussions as a couple, I still came across new situations sometimes that I hadn’t considered before, where I had to take a step back and ask myself “does this feel wrong? are there any boundaries being crossed here?” Introspection is the first step, so I think giving this stuff some thought is good

@Olo I want to read the chaotic ones

@foreverlurk

Watch out, Cameron… trust me, that can happen sometimes!

I may have had inspiration for that hahahaha

Thank you for reading!! Yess, my first thought about a blind biggo with smol friend was how sweet the symbiosis would be. My second thought was how the biggo’s condition would potentially help him appreciate her at her small size more than anyone, in part with the heightened senses. And even my (normie) sensitivity reader - the first thing she said when I was just telling her the general premise was “ohh, that’s so perfect, because she’d actually be small enough that he could have an easier time seeing her!” which is exactly what I was going for

@Olo That’s probably what it is! I daydream about it TOO much

@Olo Ohh my bad! I saw the two interact but after I posted that I realized that tiny-taker was referring to it as their survey so I got very confused lol. With all the recent reblogs bringing it back up I’m hoping lilegite’s survey data crops up soon~

@SmolChlo welp, don’t mind me, it seems I’ve melted into a puddle at the thought of this

@Nyx Finally got around to reading this and loved it! I really like the way you write dialogue Do you have a centralized place where you put all of your writing perchance?