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@Olo DANGIT. I lived in Austin for a few years back in college. Missed opportunity lol

@SmolChlo Awww well shucks! The makes me so happy Yeah that’s definitely the series where I have the most of it because the giants are shameless lol

@Olo As much as it’s not my thing personally, I do think there are more reasons to want to see your favorite characters in sizey scenarios outside of limited access. I can absolutely see the fun and excitement in taking a character you love and wondering about how they might fit into your fantasies. Beloved characters bring us comfort, spark our creativity, and yes, get our more “primal” urges going sometimes 🤭

Personally I think it’s just a matter of preference - at least that’s the case for me! It is interesting that I have also noticed the (general) trend of it being mostly men who have the “which celebrity/character” discussion. But I don’t think that necessarily makes it “wrong" or anything, just like many other facets about these fantasies. It’s an interesting discussion in any case!

@Olo Oh how the tables have turned (not that I’m a big Twilight fan, but I was a bit frustrated by the sheer amount of hate that it got)

@Nyx Yeah, I’m not sure how much it truly did affect mainstream people’s idea of BDSM or not, since kinks still feels like a bit of a taboo subject in most spaces. I do think that sometimes something blows up with the mainstream in a bad way (ie I think there are a whole lot of misconceptions about what furries are, which leads to unfortunate levels of mocking/derision from the general population). And I personally didn’t really know anything about BDSM until 50 Shades got popular, so at first I felt very creeped out by the whole idea - honestly the backlash that it got was what led me to research and learn about how BDSM actually works in real life. But I agree that 50 Shades is fiction and shouldn’t necessarily have to be “good representation,” and that by and large it might not have had that much of an effect on people’s minds.

(And yes, I also agree that I would have been way more interested if he was a lot bigger hehe)

@Nyx Completely agree! And yeah I’ve seen that firsthand with foot fetishists too - I used to work for a YouTuber, and although she was a fashion/lifestyle vlogger, there was this group of dudes who were clearly just there for anytime she showed off an outfit with sandals. They always commented early, so it was a regular thing for me to log in shortly after every video uploaded and delete all the foot comments lol. She wasn’t too bothered by it, but yeah definitely a case of a few people making an entire group look bad

Yeah, I fall under the “it depends” camp too.

So my personal situation with that is - I started RPing when I was still single. To be honest, despite doing quite a bit of it I can probably count the occasions that I enjoyed it on one hand, most of the time it was unsatisfying at best and downright traumatizing at worst (whether it was with actual creeps/assholes, or with perfectly nice dudes where our interests just didn’t align quite right and it’s no one’s fault). Because of that, it wasn’t very hard for me to decide to temporarily stop RPing when I started dating my partner, since I did feel uncomfortable doing it without telling him. Soon enough I told him about my kink, and while we explored it together, it still wasn’t quite the same as a roleplay with someone who “gets it,” so to speak.

Eventually enough time passed that I was feeling the urge to try RPing online again (the number of times where it was like “oh, this one might have potential!” kept drawing me back lol). So I broached the subject with my partner about that exact question - “does RP count as cheating?” And I do think that might be the most important factor, the way both people feel about it as a couple. It’s like with other boundaries outside of RPing - everyone will have different past experiences, different limits, different definitions of cheating, etc. He and I discussed it at length, like “does THIS feel like it would be too far past the line? what about this?”, and I showed him some examples from past RPs. I’m lucky that he’s supportive and trusting so it wasn’t an issue for us. (And then when I did try RPing again and kept getting similarly disappointed I decided it wasn’t really my thing after all and I don’t really do it anymore lol, it sorta became a moot point)

There are so many factors to consider like… Are you RPing with one person and are developing a deep emotional connection with them? Is the RP utilizing characters in third person, or are you playing yourself? How frequent are the RPs? Are they solely in writing or do they involve voice chat or anything else? These kinds of details could affect what the couple is comfortable doing. My general gauge that I went by (outside of the discussion with my partner) was to ask myself “How do I feel about this right now? Does this feel wrong to me?” instead of solely thinking “Would my partner be upset if he saw this?”

I’d certainly be curious to see other people’s take on this!

I kinda want to delve a little bit more into the actual “deed” of RPing - and again this is going to be a different boundary for everyone. Because like… Does writing a steamy story count as cheating? Probably not. Does masturbating count as cheating? I think most folks would say no, not inherently. Does watching porn/looking at arousing images/reading sexy stories count as cheating? This starts already heading into a grey zone for some folks possibly. Does collaborating with someone as a beta reader for their erotic fiction count? What about brainstorming ideas with someone for a story? What about roleplaying in a way that’s not leading to masturbating but still gives you butterflies in your stomach? What’s worse, RPing to essentially give yourself porn to jack off to but otherwise having no connection with the person on the other side of the screen, or RPing in a way where there’s nothing titillating at all but it’s creating a deep emotional connection?

I don’t have a particular point here, other than I do think this is a nuanced enough thing to give it proper thought and have proper discussion within the couple about these kinds of details.

@foreverlurk Just for the record, I was posing the questions without any intent of passing judgement I’ve done some of the things I listed myself - for example, I may have stopped RPing but it’s not like I stopped looking at SW content altogether when I first started dating but hadn’t yet discussed all this stuff with him (and I’m pretty sure my hubby didn’t stop looking at certain types of content either before that point - and that never bothered either one of us). And despite having had the discussions as a couple, I still came across new situations sometimes that I hadn’t considered before, where I had to take a step back and ask myself “does this feel wrong? are there any boundaries being crossed here?” Introspection is the first step, so I think giving this stuff some thought is good

@Olo Ohh my bad! I saw the two interact but after I posted that I realized that tiny-taker was referring to it as their survey so I got very confused lol. With all the recent reblogs bringing it back up I’m hoping lilegite’s survey data crops up soon~

@Olo ooo! As someone who’s rather into the suuuper tiny sizes this is relevant to my interests ️

@Olo Ooo thank you for the review, I’m glad to hear it was decent! I might have to scrounge up some kind of Prime free trial or something…

@Jitensha Ahhh I would love to go one day! I’m just hoping the con can keep going for a few more years, there’s a legitimate chance I’ll be moving closer to that area at some point.

It was definitely as far back as I can remember for me! Honey I Shrunk the Kids and Magic School Bus probably had something to do with my love of micro sizes. But Ferngully, Tinkerbell, Thumbelina, the Borrowers, all of it helped me realize that I wanted to be tiny! I was actually Tinkerbell for Halloween when I was in second grade (and then I did it again just a few years ago haha)

@BigCuddlyGiant I kinda love the one where’s she’s laying in the ear. It seems like a potentially comfy/intimate spot that I hadn’t really thought of before.