@littlest-lily said in Psychology of fantasies:
@Nyx I thiiink that part of the reason 50 shades got a lot of flack was for it not being the best representation of what BDSM actually is, so the fact that it got so mainstream was potentially a disservice for the kink community. But also I wouldn’t be surprised if most of the backlash came from harmless reasons (like it being “porn for moms”
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It’s fictional and has many of the same vibes as other romance novels (which shouldn’t necessarily translate into real world relationships, either). If it had tried to sell itself as a nonfiction BDSM guide, I would have agreed with those critics. But most viewers can separate reality from fantasy (as is the case with horror and video games). Not to say that the novels were perfect; I had trouble getting into them, especially since Christian Grey was way too small 