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I’ve also wondered why men seem to get squirrelly when you go for their butt or feet

I think the general consensus in the culture/media/etc. is that these particular male body parts are repulsive…especially feet. Foot fetishism in general tends to be frowned upon, but it seems like appreciating women’s feet aesthetically is more accepted and is considered more “normal” than appreciating men’s feet (and I think the same is true for female butts versus male butts…appreciating female butts is more accepted). It’s fairly common to see women posing barefoot in glamor photos, sexy photos, artistic photos, the list goes on. Men? Not so much. Women wear stiletto heels when they get all dressed up…men wear closed shoes. Women’s feet are on display more often, and they’re more carefully maintained and made to look pretty. (As for butts, I’ve noticed that when women’s butts are shown in movies, it’s usually portrayed as sexy. When men’s butts are shown, it’s portrayed as funny, gross, or sad.) When there are a lot of cultural messages implying that men’s feet are undesirable and should be hidden away (or simply not focused on), I think some men probably internalize those messages, which would make them more uncomfortable with receiving the kind of attention that you described.

I also feel like the whole foot thing may have acquired some “feminine” connotations. For instance, going barefoot can have the effect of making someone look more vulnerable, and vulnerability is considered feminine. Also, women seem to go barefoot or show their feet more often than men do, and that may contribute even further to the associations with femininity. When you see couples together, a lot of women put their bare feet in their boyfriend’s lap, a lot of men rub their girlfriends’ feet, and so on, but how often do you see those things happen the other way around–with the genders reversed? It seems pretty rare. So if a man has been internalizing these norms for his entire life, I can understand how he might instinctively feel like it’s “feminine” for him to have someone paying special attention to his feet in that way (in other words, treating him as if he were a woman).

That said, I’m a guy who appreciates female feet and hates male feet (including my own), so I’m not representative of all straight men. I might be right on target with my theorizing…OR I might be HORRENDOUSLY guilty of projecting my own biases, quirks, and hang-ups onto other men. Either ignore my theories or don’t. Haha.

Nyx

@blehb said in Just chillin:

Idk if it’s just who I am or if this kink has helped me appreciate every part of the body. Even the “grosser” parts are sexy. Maybe a lot of people irl are like this and just don’t talk about it. Or maybe I’m a little weirdo lmao.

I’m the same way. For me, bigness is attractive, so if I saw a giant man’s elbow, I’d probably swoon.

(Conversely, I also like smallness so a tiny hand touching my fingertip would also make me swoon.)