I only discuss this with people online, and only with those who know me as “Olo” (I have normie accounts for normie business). SizeCon is the glaring exception.
My longtime partner knows of my F/m enthusiasms, but she’s not interested in any Sizey stuff. Once I decided to go to SizeCon last year I haven’t had to dance around the subject, but it’s still not something I go on at length about.
Question for M/f vore prey: do you like preds with beards? Thinkin’ about growing one.
@miss-lillipants said:
I will add that we have to consider the broader socio-cultural context in which content is produced and consumed.
The OP was singling out F/m for the particular harms it can cause. The (straight) male gaze problem is present in all media and genres, and M/f is no exception.
F/m has been my primary interest for most of my fetish “career.” Over the years I have observed with increasing dismay and disgust how petty and entitled the loudest segment of F/m enthusiasts became, arrogating to themselves ownership of “the Giantess fetish” and demanding everyone in Size spaces recognize their authority and conform to their prescriptions. There’s nothing about F/m that requires such obnoxious behavior and it’s embarrassing to be associated with it.
The chief problem with “objectification” (in any context) is that it removes other people, erasing their personalities and needs and wants, and treating them as mere props in one’s own narrative. A male F/m fan who has a simplistic and rigid view of how giantesses are supposed to behave is indeed engaging in objectification of women in his fantasy. The remedy is to compose a fantasy featuring complex and varied characters, both male and female, such that everyone has different reactions to the scenario and more readers/viewers can find room for themselves or at least for their desires.
A physical fetish like Size is naturally going to “objectify” elements such as body parts, sensations, and emotional effects. There’s nothing wrong with that. F/m should focus on giant female bodies just as much as M/f should focus on giant male bodies. That’s what we’re here for. As a straight dude who enjoys M/f, I want to see/read how tiny women feel in the presence of giant men. That’s objectification I actively desire.
I completely sympathize with anyone tired of how hegemonic F/m has become in Size spaces. You have nothing to apologize for when venting your feelings on this subject.
@miss-lillipants Giants don’t need to be good at anything, actually.
