How Open Are You All About Your Fetish?
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First of all, Happy New Years! It has been a while.
I did have a question in mind: how open are you all about your fetish to people?
personally im a bit open about it (obviously on here) and on my AO3, but everywhere else i keep it a secret especially in real life since in a way i am really insecure about it and scared of judgement.
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@sirensinner I’m much more open online than in RL. I keep my online presence and real-life presence separate, but also size and non-size online presence separate too - I have a separate email and username/“persona”/avatar for any accounts I make for size-related content (including this forum, DA, AO3, Blue Sky, etc.). I’m more cautious these days, but I used to be more laissez-faire with account-mixing when I was younger. Like I would just have a single account for multiple things, mostly because it was convenient. But it was also a time when emails weren’t so integrated into SO MUCH of everything.
In RL, my partner knows about my fetish (and it took me a long time to tell him), my ex knows (and am prepared to deny and retaliate if he tries to use it to try to undermine me to others) and an ex from a long time ago (though he may not even remember, or probably thinks I just like really tall guys).
I have also personally met friends I’ve made over the years through forums, or we’ve shared addresses and sent each other stuff. That takes a lot of trust though (and money, as we tend to be on opposites sides of the world).
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@sirensinner I have same dilemma
When I got close to my sexual interest… and I am opening myself to her about this fetish… mostly they find it weird and some are distancing themselves. I get it tho… normally you don’t find a little creature exploring your genital is hot
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The only person i ever told irl was my girlfriend in high school. We never really talked about it much so no idea what she thought. (that was a me choice, and a regret of mine)
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Open? Not at all.
Even ignoring that fetishes are fetishes, and so people don’t want to talk about them… this one just isn’t one that will be received well, I think, these days.
Obviously there’s people who are into it, and there’s probably quite a few people who would be OK with it, but culturally all of this isn’t going looked at kindly.
Power is choice.
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Hello my name is Garry watts you can find me on Facebook if you want think I’ve got reindeer antlers on in my profile pic. At this point the people that know me in real life I’d be hard pressed to point at someone that doesn’t know or at least thinks I’m into something off the beaten path and that doubles for online. Having said all that professionals and personaly I’m basicly bullet proof as if it got out I’d face no real consequences of it but I’m just really lucky in that regard of being able to be so open with this sort of stuff
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@miss-lillipants
I can honestly relate to that as someone who is involved with a lot of stuff in their personal life. I feel like I have to mask myself not just with this fetish but also who I really am.Now that I remember, I think my very first ex probably knew, not macrophilia per say, but just really into height difference…I remember him teasing me about being short and that really triggered my gooney haha. However with every other relationship, they were really toxic and felt like I couldn’t come out.
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@tiny_spelunker69
I feel like macro/microphilia is somewhat becoming more of those fetishes that people do find bizarre but still tamed. I feel like those who do care about you should at least be open with it since I know a lot of people (me included) were groomed into it. -
@i-am-insane
I think now that people are into fucking monsters (I’ve seen the hear me out cakes on TikTok lol) I feel like they are more aware of the fetish and just move on with their day. Gigantica from Monsters vs Aliens is a good example of that now that I’ve seen people (me) simp for her as well -
@The-Big-G
Yeah I think for me if people did find out I would probably get humiliated but…that is not the worst thing I could go through. I know people that I have connections with in real life know that I write smut and stuff which is fine but paranoid about what exactly I’m into. -
@sirensinner Not open at all. Even as a child I knew something wasn’t quite ‘right’ with me, so I kept this under lock and key, even more so after puberty.
I did try to tell the women who shared my life, but I never could. Awkward, introverted & shy, so communication has never been my forte, let alone discussion about my secret fetish. I have lots of respect to people coming out to their partners.
I think as an older (in my 40s) dom male, it’s simply hard mode. Subby, tiny men offer this “power reversal” trope. Women wanting to be big or shrinking men is “empowering”. But someone like me? I’m “perpetuating harmful gender stereotypes”
Only half-joking, because that’s what a lot of normies (and even people in this community) think of classic BDSM, so imagine their reactions to me wanting to shrink women down and use them for sexual gratification?!I tried to tell my sister with whom I’m otherwise very close, but even then it was a disaster. She was clearly uncomfortable and changed the topic, after acting like this discussion never happened
I’m most certainly taking this to my grave.
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Like the new new blue people movie I’ve lost count of all the simps for the fire and ash woman and how everyone one wants a giant blue mussel mommy. Don’t get me wrong they are sexy but I’m looking at her going awesome but what if tiny and still angry and defiant. Besides that the main questions I get asked when I make statements like “I would love to make tinker bell my cock ring” is “how dose that work ?”. The second most asked question is “so your into midget porn then ?” The way I generally explain it to others is think of it like power play in bdsm where you have a Dom and a Sub only difference is that when I play Dom to a sub there is a substantial height difference. I generally find people less weird out when you can put it terms that they understand but again if your not comfortable sharing it don’t there are no laws saying you have to just understand this isn’t something to be ashamed of it’s a healthy release. If you have people around you that are making you feel like a freak or your bad for having these desires then ether they have there own issues or they secretly want to be your tiny.
