It seems to me that the basic error here is assuming that one’s sexual desires somehow reflect on one’s social values, particularly if one has a hidden or obscure kink.
I consider myself lucky to have avoided experiencing this kind of shaming that appears pretty common from M/f and SW fans. It wasn’t until when I was older that I realised that the fantasy could be (mis)interpreted as misogynistic. There is undoubtedly misogynistic material and fans out there, but I don’t think the fantasy itself is inherently so (both sexual and non-sexual content).
I think people grossly misunderstand by essentialising it to “big = dominant, small = submissive” and conveniently omit other elements like agency (a character’s or the fan’s), subject portrayal, audience, perspectives, themes, etc. It’s the same with F/m and GTS which can also get confused: I also think it is not inherently misogynistic and you would think exemplifies a fantasy where women can feel empowered. In reality, that is overwhelmingly not the case within the fandom and its content (even mainstream content tends to leans towards the male gaze) - consider, e.g. the paradox of power.
@Olo Now since I think about it, I agree with what you said, that your not waiting for size to be mainstream. I guess it would be a bad thing since you also said it would be exploited by capitalism. I thought this may be an interesting topic to dwelve in because I feel as if the size community has become so much over the past years. I also wanted to try and predict where this community is headed. You are right about how there is no single size community.
It’s what frustrates me about that movie when I think about it; hell, it bugged me when I first watched it, though I didn’t understand why: they set up the narrative of ‘an ogre is a scary monster’ for the entire movie run off of, and then do nothing to make that make sense, even though they acted like it was a thing. If they had gone for a different take, and made it so ogres were misunderstood or something, it would have worked with the Shriek we got, but it seems to be saying ogres are scary monsters, but Shriek is a lazy bum so it doesn’t matter?
It’s sort of doing both at once and neither, so the point kind of gets lost beyond ‘Shriek isn’t bad’.
@TakoAlice8 You are so so kind, thank you for those lovely words ❤
I’m also not sure if this helps… But another thing that I’m realizing has helped me is that I have a friend who is on the SM side - he thinks SW are cute but would much rather be tiny himself. And he is JUST as bothered by judgy GTS fans as we are and also thinks there should be more variety in content. It helps me to hear that kind of thing from him and know that the toxicity comes from a very loud minority.
So I’ve been pretty deep into Baldur’s Gate 3 lately. And Gale, the NPC wizard companion, who my player character is dating, would make a plausible giant or shrinker.
If you read between the lines of his storyline, he seems like a D/s sub, but, I think he has it in him to be a switch. And he can tap into crazy amounts of magic, enough to cast a stronger Enlarge / Reduce spell.
I made him cast Enlarge on himself to get past these jumps that he kept on failing, and it gave me Feelings I should have expected. If there were enough spell slots he would always run around like that.
And to anyone who knows the game: I also tried to romance Astarion, the sexy vampire, but it failed, because he only bonds with you if you do kinda chaotic sadistic actions, but my player character acts nobly in this game.