@Mrgoblinging7 Thanks, I hope it does work for me too.
I think the nature of the fantasy itself, of wanting to dominate/shrink/reduce really makes it harder to paint ourselves (biggos) in a positive light. I can rarely see myself as anything else than the “bad guy” in my fantasies, or maybe the hypocrite savior at best.
I’m still not sure what I’ll need to feel better (an actual 3" tall lady would def help!), but gaining a better understanding of myself is the first step.
@Giganto82 Oh I should have started therapy much earlier in my life. In fact I had talked to my parents when I was quite young but… my feelings weren’t validated, to the contrary.
My fetish is not the root cause of my depression, but I think it amplifies some feelings that gravitate around it? And it’s a common link between some of my failed relationships? I can’t explain it better than that - I’m still trying to figure this part out.
It’s still the best stress and anxiety relief for sure.
@The-Big-G said in Depression and Size Kink:
Dose a day go by that I wouldn’t give up everything to spend five minutes with a tiny woman even if we just chatted as I admired her
“Chatting as I admired her” 
yes, this, exactly this. I think I used these same words a few times. Is it too much to ask? 
And thanks, it’s always nice to know I’m not alone.
@SmolChlo Thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, I think you’re right - if I want to understand myself, I can’t be serious about this and not bring up the fetish. I’ve always thought there was no real explanation to its origins. I’m not so sure anymore. Perhaps I’m just afraid of what I’ll find.
I can’t explain why it amplifies my feelings of solitude and melancholia. Paradoxically, indulging in sizey stories, comics, or videos is also the biggest dopamine (and sexual) rush I can experience. “What nourishes me, destroys me.”
@littlest-lily You’re right, there’s no app - I should have said “website” or “web application”. It’s not that complex but I think the UI is a bit confusing at first and I’m not sure what is visible or not, ie. what is shared or what is kept private.
I have opened a second account to test some features before using my real one (if I ever get over my self-consciousness and actually post something, that is 
)
I hesitate to post this, as I don’t want to wallow in self-pity but I need to get this off my chest. Due to some… life circumstances, I’ve been doing a lot of introspection lately. I was wondering if I’m alone in thinking that sometimes, having this kink can cause a certain natural inclination towards melancholia, or like a deep nostalgic longing for something impossible to be true, and for someone to love in that unreachable reality.
Now don’t get me wrong, there are many things I enjoy about this fetish, and I wouldn’t want to be rid of it. Like it both hurts and comforts me, causes me guilt and happiness, brings me anxiety and peace. It’s just difficult to explain exactly how it makes me feel lonelier than it should be possible. For me, SW has always been such a strong desire, even beyond the sexual aspect. Faced with the impossibility of ever having a tiny lady of my own - as utterly ridiculous as I know this statement to be - it’s bringing me way down. It’s not that I would want all of this to be real all the time, but not sharing that silly dream with anyone I loved made it doubly non-existent. There’s this huge part of me that no-one has ever seen.
In my life I’ve spent so much time in my mind, imagining things that cannot be, and never sharing this secret garden with anyone, even with those very close to me. Again it’s both a blessing and a curse, and to some extent I’d much rather live in my fantasies than in reality. Having a rich inner world and keeping some of my childhood wonder alive did protect me from the heavy cynicism that usually comes with age. I’m just not built to face some rougher aspects of this reality head-on, and withstand years and years of having my dreams crushed.
All this rambling to say I’ve started therapy, and I’m thinking of mentionning my kink to my therapist. I’m still unsure if it’s a good idea. I don’t think my fetish was born from trauma or negative emotions, but the way I’ve lived with this inside me for all those years brought only troubles in my past relationships, and caused me to retreat and flee further into the depths of my mind. Yet, there are people, real people who need me and depend on me in reality, and I don’t feel like I’m here and there enough for them. It’s just been so rough.
“Do you know that place between asleep and awake? That place where you still remember dreaming? That’s where I’ll always love you.”
@blehb Good idea, and maybe also a place to ask for help understanding the app for newbies 
There is now an IMDB page up for the series.
The description is 
A technological accident serves as a catalyst for Lindy and Les, a married couple, to re-evaluate their relationship’s power dynamics, leading to a dramatic showdown as they vie for control in their marriage.
Excuse my Québécois but that was hot en tabarnak.
@miss-lillipants said in Sweet treat (M/f, borrower, gentle, fluff, smut):
Whereas he engulfed her entirely, she must have felt like a blip, barely detectable, her fingertips like feathers, her little lips pecking him with her diminutive kisses.
That sentence, the entire paragraph is pure fucking gold. Such a perfect depiction of those tiny, faint, light touches and sweet kisses I imagine so much - I could almost feel them. The holy trinity of vulnerability, insignificance and yet being the only thing that matters, the center of his world.
Needless to say, I’ll be in my bunk.
Lots of interesting thoughts, Olo. I think mine intersects with Lily’s a lot, in the sense that while violence is not really my thing, I would never judge you based on your fantasies. I sincerely hope that, whenever I express my own personal preferences for the gentler side of things, I don’t come across as judging or looking down upon those that don’t share my tastes.
I was fortunate enough to be older than most here when I first got access to the internet, so I wasn’t that shocked when first exposed to violent SW fiction and pictures. I must admit that hurting or killing in the context of shrinking had never even crossed my mind at that point. It’s part of those little details in size fiction that took me a while to discover, like for instance the prevalence of fear as being the foremost sought after emotion from the tiny/SW’s perspective. I know it’s obvious but what I personally seek with the shrinking lies first and foremost in the newfound vulnerability of the shrunken woman. The fear, as I see it, is a byproduct of that loss of power, but not THE thing I’m explicitly looking for. I’m almost like a blissfully unaware giant that has no clue of the utter terror he’s inflicting on his shrunken victim. Does that make any sense?
It is not unreasonable, therefore, to be concerned about how expressions of fetish desires might be (mis)interpreted by people unfamiliar with the tropes and conventions of certain fetishes.
We had a case very similar to Gilberto Valle here in Quebec with a horror writer for a book he published in 2017. In that story, there was an incest/rape scene involving a minor - someone reported that to police, and he was accused of producing child pornography. He was later found not guilty but not before his entire life had been destroyed.
I don’t know where modern day psychology stands on all this. I’ve seen their takes on “viDeO gAmEs mAkE yOu viOleNt!!” and I’m not sure we’re in the clear. I’m old enough to remember the D&D scare in the 90s, when people thought playing that game made us satanic worshippers or something. I shudder to think what some experts would say if they were exposed to size fiction.
PS: J’aime beaucoup le titre de votre article. Very clever.
@Nyx said in When the world doesn't feel big enough:
That looks like a giant phone
I though so too, haha we’re so hopeless 
Glad to know I’m not the only one.
@miss-lillipants Nice, I figured it was something like that, but you can’t stop my G/t-rotted brain from seeing sizey stuff 24/7. 
What’s a “mobility aid size self check area”? Like, can I just stand there and offer free hand rides to tinies or what?!
Well holy shit… the entire Robotech / Macross saga is coming to Disney+ 
https://collider.com/macross-disney-plus-streaming-anime-series/