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@littlest-lily:

even in my imagination I don’t have any interest in being “bad” and deserving of punishment. I suppose I just prefer the idea of the shrinkee being an innocent victim (or it’s a happy consensual thing).

Same! Shrinking (or exposure to/living with giants) as a punishment for a tiny’s misdeeds isn’t usually my cup of tea either. There are plenty of ways to punish or humiliate (in some cases, dispose of) someone without shrinking them. I daresay that relates to my association with tiny things to be protected and giant things to be the protector. An exception, if you could count it, is a Robin Hood type situation where actions aren’t necessarily motivated by villainy: “stealing from the rich to give to the poor kind” of thing.

In my mind, being shrunk or to be put into a diminutive position is something to be overcome, literally (for survival) and/or metaphorically (the situation representing fears, being a doormat, etc.). So I guess, in a way, it’s still a “punishment” by virtue of being who she is or what she’s done, except it’s not what would be considered “bad behaviour”. In this case, who she is someone undeserving of more of the bullshit that life has thrown at her, and she must realise how to overcome her flaws, take control or make do of the situation before it destroys her, physically or otherwise.

Mad respect to anyone who is able to record themselves to share with others, whether it’s ASMR, roleplaying, radioplay-style, audiobook/narration, etc. I get too weirded out at hearing my own voice that I can’t even bring myself to listen to recordings to practice and improve

@Aborigen you did a wonderful job! It was a pleasure listening to your and, by extension, others’ perspectives

The lion analogy

@Olo

Replying to u/BetweenDesireAndBreakfast

• Thank you! I think it helps that he and I don’t have much contact at work, physically or structurally. My manager is my direct line and there’s been no incidents that have required Big Boss’s intervention. So we can happily go about our usual business in the office, and then see each other later.

• Curiosity forgiven! Views on mixed-size relationships are…varied. A lot of people don’t generally mind, but are still weirded out by the size discrepancies. I think it’s easier to fall into what they’re familiar with - it avoids having to think about the logistics, getting creative and accepting that some things just simply aren’t possible yet (like bearing children, still a highly controversial topic).

• People in the cities are the least concerned and often don’t mind. Most might have a quick gawk, but then move on. Jay and his partner have told me that strangers still ask them inappropriate questions, usually about their sex lives. Stuff you wouldn’t ask a non-mixed couple, so why them, you know?

• My parents tell me it was much worse when they were younger: many couples resorted to hiding the Tiny partner when out in public to avoid being harassed, or worse. Harassment and violence are not tolerated anymore though. I think having mixed spaces helps, it helps encourage contact and exposure. My parents encouraged me to take cross-cultural studies, so I don’t think they’d mind if told them about my relationship. But I still haven’t told them…

• Regional and rural towns and villages are much more traditional. Many are still exclusively Big or Tiny. Their views are very much embedded in ideas of natural vs unnatural, and perpetuated by the physical separation of Big and Tiny towns. There is very little to no intermingling between Bigs and Tinies, and in their minds, there’s no need to either.

• Put simply, if word went back to my home town about my relationship with Big Boss, I’d no doubt hear chattering about how freakish we are. Some of the worse ones might say something how about much of a big sl*t I am for monster dick, or something about how I “don’t value my life”. I’m sure Bigs have their own equivalents, but I’m not as familiar with those. There’s stuff about about relations with vermin or insects. It’s pretty degrading either way.

@foreverlurk

Replying to u/BrokenByWhispers

• What a great initiative! Sounds like he’s got good intentions, just…be mindful of what she’s feeling. Good luck to your friend!

@tiny-ivy awww Gale is my favourite charming soft boy he’d make a wonderful giant (to an SW or literal, I have also explored this).

I think Aylin’s character helped solidify my thoughts on the range and flexibility of paladin characters: she’s very proud, charismatic (glorious, even) and driven by a strong sense of justice, but she’s also intense, horrifyingly violent and has the absolute audacity 24/7. I wouldn’t quite want that for my main giant, but they would make for some great tension!

@foreverlurk said:

But seriously, 5’ 7" seems rather tall for women, no? “Ideal” height my arse.

@blehb said:

While 5’7 isn’t super tall, it is interesting that the ideal height was above the average for women.

For a long time, I defaulted on the belief that men liked short women. So I found it very interesting to learn that there are a lot of men who don’t like a big size difference (“big” by “normie” standards). They preferred shorter women, but otherwise liked for them and their partners to be of similar heights. One guy, for example, described interactions with short women as physically awkward when it came to hugs and kisses. Dude was clearly an amateur, but it was fascinating nonetheless.

@blehb said:

I’m curious how the results would differ under a more extensive study, though I wouldn’t be surprised if they were still the same.

Here is a recent (2022) cross-cultural study of height preferences in a partner, done with 500 men and women across Canada, Cuba, Norway and the US. It found a general preference for taller-than-average men and shorter-than-average women, but interestingly, they also found that the men (but not the women) had a preference for shorter women for short-term relationships, and taller women for long-term.

Anyway, so skimming through the article. For Canada: the preferred height for women was 165.6cm (5’5") for short-term relationships and 167.2cm (5’5.8" or just say 5’6"). So the preferred height has been reduced! Cuba, Norway and the US are shorter - though just a bit!

We’re just kind of boring.

Nah, we’re our own brand of compact fun

@Olo said:

I don’t think I’ve ever read a Size story that dealt with menstruating tinies.

I don’t think I’ve read one either. Not many stories in general tend to unless it’s young adult stuff, but tbf I am not an avid book reader. I do remember Tamora Pierce characters having to manage their periods when training for knighthood.

I’d be interested in people’s takes on how menstruation is experienced and managed for tiny/shrinking scenarios. Would make for some good lore/world building. Some broad thoughts to stay on topic:

1. Business as usual: bleeding as normal (or to the usual flow of the tiny) and is something to just deal with. Rags and other absorbent materials are probably pretty accessible and, depending, can be disposed of or washed. PMS symptoms are experienced the same way. They have to be careful of where they are at a particular point in time, at the risk of attracting unwanted beasties (piggybacking on the bear myth here a bit, but there are plenty of other things to worry about when you’re the size of a doll). This could be a problem for a tiny who’s periods are particularly painful or debilitating.
2. Shrinking is physiologically disruptive: Happens but the shrinking process changes the flow for whatever reason put forth, for better or worse, e.g. the tiny used to be able to keep track of their flow, now they can’t; they experience spotting for the first few months until their body equalises with their new size; they experience PMS symptoms to a different extent - less or more pain, lighter or heavier bleeding, different symptoms entirely, etc.
3. Nothing at all: menstruation is uncommon or ceases entirely. This might be brought on by different pressures, including the tiny exerting greater physical activity due to their small size, or a lack of accessible nutrition. For non-humans, maybe they just don’t have it at all, or very limited (like a couple times a year).

Australia is similar - the laws will come into effect in December. Given the vagueness with things like what constitutes “reasonable steps” (for websites to prevent Australian children under 16 from having accounts), and what @foreverlurk said about the location of web hosts, I don’t imagine that DD will actually be affected by them. But I’m no expert.

What shits me is that it’s clearly not about safety for young people on the internet - or anyone’s safety really.

@i-am-insane said:

Hmm. Unless the equivalent is actually huge, bulging muscles or something? Big arms broad shoulders?

Not necessarily. This parallels discussions around superhero bodies and male power fantasies: portrayals of muscular men often don’t aim to appeal to women so much as to other men. But of course, it’s more nuanced than “men like muscles, women don’t”. I think because a lot of social conditioning around sex centres men and male pleasure so heavily, you may be hard pressed to find a direct equivalent to a lot of fantasy tropes (often leading to false equivalencies) without a lot of de-centering first. It’s complicated and I appreciate the effort you’re putting in to understand!

Personally, I love my giants to be broad-shouldered and sculpted like a statue, but it’s not necessary. I’d like for him to be attractive, but the specifics of his looks comes secondary to his personality, actions, intentions and the overall story. It’s a feature, not the main event. As @littlest-lily says,

the kink is around the fact that he’s much, much bigger. And then at that point I care more about what he does than what he looks like.

On the topic of fear and fetishes: first, I hope that I didn’t come across as dismissive by sharing my own experience - I worried that it was giving off a “wElL I dOn’T fEeL tHe SaMe So ThAt CaN’t Be RiGhT” vibe. I also genuinely thought that the article would just be an interesting little primer on fetish development that highlights, I think, that almost any theory from anyone’s personal experience is a valid one. We know so little about fetish development in general: literally all these studies saying “we need to do MORE studies”

Second, to make up for it and if anyone is interested, someone wrote a thesis that is publicly available on the correlation between anxiety and fetish/paraphilia development (I realise it’s not fear per se, but I think they’re closely related). There have been lots of studies that suggest a correlation between the two, but the author argues “no specific link” and, essentially, that it’s a bit more complicated - something we can all appreciate, methinks. There are more recent studies available, but her review of studies and existing theories at the time (2011) might address some of the common questions on fetishes/paraphilia in general - beyond unsubstantiated bunk. Really fascinating, but understandably not the lightest of reads. I only VERY quickly skimmed through some sections.

@Olo -chef’s kiss-

@skysayl said:

FWIW I never got into feet. Not as a tiny; in fact, I’m quite neutral on it to the point it might be the one thing I’d be chill with were I in a giantess mood (rare.)

I’m the same with feet: not my thing, never has been. I don’t mind them being used as a device to emphasise the tiny’s smallness (or giant’s bigness), like a foot stomping down in front of them, or being almost stepped on. It’s more of a threat to their life, rather than something either of them take sexual pleasure in. For spicier scenarios, they’d make contact but there’s never emphasis on the foot itself - it’s almost akin to having a hand pin a tiny down, but I acknowledge it is a bit more humiliating.

Ballsacks, though.

@Nyx said:

I’ve always loved the idea of a callous giant who can’t be bothered to relate to the tiny people at his feet. He has no issue trampling their cities or ruining their lives. Then, for whatever reason, he’s forced to understand the pain that he’s inflicted. Those “bugs” are people – with hopes and dreams, and he goes through a change of heart.

Be still, my heart I’m such a sucker for some empathy building on the giant’s end (bonus points if he’s retained some meanness, but he’s working on it)

@littlest-lily said:

I feel like I’ve vaguely explored that concept when writing if I think about it (like a character feeling like “dammit, I need to stop being so scared of him! I’ll to force myself to interact so I get used to him!”)

Yes! Actively engaging or confronting the Giant is wonderful. I imagine that, just like exposure to other things, sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it makes it worse. Different treatments for different people. If you or @SmolChlo (or anyone else) end up creating something around a retreat or wellness centre, I would happily consume.

I prefer giants/growth to tiny/shrunk scenarios. For me, it’s the thrill of seeing and interacting someone so much larger and more powerful than me AND everybody/everything else. In coupling scenarios, I find an intimacy or sweetness in the “tiny” being the one and only centre of the giant’s world - he can take his pick of anything and anyone (singular or plural), do whatever he wants with them, but it’s only one little speck that makes any sort of impact on him personally.

@littlest-lily said:

so what I’m talking about is MMM/f 🤭

Sign me tf up for multi-man tomfoolery.