@Calypsa
Honestly, a lot of what I’m interested in is usually a subversion of the classic SW tropes: she shrinks, but she’s into it before the man is, or actively did it to herself. I’m growing, but she’s doing to me, or is the one who is excited about it.
I like… the push pull, where both sides have some levers on the other, even if it’s just on emotional manipulation or something, making both ends of the equation active, if unequal, actors. If it’s just the basic ‘bigger person grabs smaller one, sex’, it’s… bland, almost? The situation, the relationship, that dynamic, flavors it.
In the same way, I’m interested in levels of dehumanization, but it can go too far, because it’s the fact that they are people that make it so interesting. If you reduce the woman to just an object, so much of what makes everything special is gone; it’s like you’ve replaced a gem with a Christmas light.