Posts made by foreverlurk

@Deedee Oh I’ve been on the receiving end of cheating too, don’t worry. And not pretend online cheating, but real, actual in-person cheating. I guess it doesn’t make a difference and I deserved it (or rather, we “deserved each other”).

The disability is not the fetish if you read what I wrote it’s obvious I was talking about proper, normal communication with other humans. But even trying to correct that will probably make it look like I’m finding “excuses”, being weird or whatever.

Look, I’m not trying to win an argument since anyway I agree with most of what you wrote. For instance, I probably shouldn’t be in a relationship. So let’s keep it at that.

@SmolChlo If you’re not interested in my explanations to understand why things were the way they were, that’s fine - but don’t mistake that for excuses or seeking a way out. Understanding and explaining doesn’t mean you endorse those behaviours.

@SmolChlo said :

if they have no knowledge of it and they consider themselves to be monogamous with you then yes it’s cheating

I know, and that’s why I tell people having this fetish can be a curse. I never wanted this, never asked for any of this.

@The-Big-G said :

I’ve run into or chatted with that are uncomfortable with even broaching the subject of this kink or any other with there partners.

You must know that some people don’t have the same wholesome experience. Again, this doesn’t get posted online often, we don’t usually like to post our Ls online (a bit like this very thread, hehe). I could tell you about some cases where things have gone extremely wrong - this girl getting her private sizey RP DMs sent to everyone at her school, this married guy getting doxxed about his microphilia to his boss, co-workers and wife (which didn’t know about this kink). Or a guy revealing his fetish to his girlfriend only for her to be disgusted, ending their relationship and then them getting blocked or ridiculed in his social circle when she told friends and family.

@The-Big-G said :

I think that is the point I’m trying to make I feel cheating is the point when you romanticly desire someone else more than your partner

That’s interesting, that would definitely be crossing the line for me, but I wonder if that could really happen with simple RPing online? I mean, how can you develop something that strong remotely.

@Deedee said :

Everyone has a thousand reasons for not telling their partner when they’re doing something close to the line.

Hmm I believe there are genuine reasons for wanting to keep things on the hush. I also know that some people are just built differently, they don’t feel that shame at all. Some also lack the empathy to think beyond their ableist views.

@littlest-lily said :

Just for the record, I was posing the questions without any intent of passing judgement

Haha, don’t worry it’s okay; I know my sins and the price I pay for them. I did start the thread, didn’t I?

@littlest-lily Oh no, if getting butterflies in my stomach when chatting with a SW is cheating, I’m done for

Seriously, the very nature of our kink makes it borderline thoughtcrimes, no? So much of it happens in your mind because it can’t be otherwise. I did ask for opinions, and I’m not judging - neither am I seeking absolution or validation.

Lily, you raise some very good questions. What’s even more interesting to me is that my own answers have changed over time, my 20-yo self would have been way more conservative about some of those, whereas now I think I would give all the freedom and trust to my partner, if the roles were reversed.

@Deedee said :

My general rule is that if you aren’t comfortable telling your partner exactly what happened you shouldn’t be doing it

I don’t disagree. I simply wasn’t able to tell her about the kink, yet I couldn’t give up SW. It’s not that I never tried, either. It’s just not quite the same for me as, say, asking your partner for a threesome, other more normie-ish things of that nature.

I don’t know, maybe I’m the only one. If someone doesn’t understand that it’s harder for some people to come out about this, well… all I can say is I’m jealous.

@Nyx I’m a grognard and a survivor of GiantessCity, old enough not to care about them, but I’m still sad that this behaviour could potentially lead to creators leaving the community.

Don’t worry about me, this M/f creator is here to stay, I’ve lurked long enough.

@SmolChlo said in Is role playing a form of cheating?:

RP’s can get spicy so if you’re in a relationship and another girl online is getting your dick hard and your girl isn’t aware then yes it’s cheating.

That’s fair. The thing is that I’m usually a pretty chill dude in most circumstances, but if SW are involved then I have a really hard time keeping my cool. So while I knew what I was doing was wrong, I couldn’t resist.

@SmolChlo said in Is role playing a form of cheating?:

Share this with your partner right off the rip so it gives them a fair chance to make a decision on if they’d like to continue with you

And that’s the loop I was stuck into, guilt vs fear of losing her. That’s why IMHO that’s a conversation that needs to come early in a relationship (again, not trying to make excuses, but I waited far too long)

@Epic_Illusionist That’s the part I will NEVER understand, it’s not like SM and GTS rare this super rare, niche within a niche and hard to find thing. Why is he even following me?!

@foreverlurk GUYS!

GUYS!!

GUYS!!!

It’s been a while but I’ve got another SM hating on my content Lately I’ve only had the usual, boring DMs telling me to kill myself from anti-AI peeps, but this one is funny. Have a look :

His opinion on M/f content:

He’s not a huge fan of F/f content either:

Somehow his username and comments made me think of Asterix lol

Still, I really don’t know how he ended up following me, or what he was expecting me to post?!

I’ve been playing around with SD3 which is finally out, but a huge disappointment so far. So I’m back with some more SDXL gens, more on my DA as usual.

Just a Taste

Drink Me

Trespasser

@The-Big-G That’s a VERY good point I completely forgot to mention : we’re cursed to never experience this IRL, it will always be fantasy. At the same time, we can’t help it so it’s important IMHO for a loving partner to leave space for that fantasy, not only in terms of RPing but indulging in fiction, art, etc.

I get that it can be hard to understand for normies, though, ie. “why do you want to spend time in a fantasy instead of real, actual me!?”. Ugh.

@littlest-lily I should have mentioned that I wasn’t single in my youth, I started dating at 16 and wasn’t again (beside a few months in-between) until I was 38. So for me, RPing has always been done “behind the back” of my partners.

I also feel that my maturity and openness in terms of communication didn’t have the chance to grow - we’ve had kids much too young in retrospect, and once you’ve got little mouths to feed you spend quite a few years “forgetting” yourself, not really putting your own needs first I mean.

My definition and needs vis-à-vis role-playing has evolved with time. I’m with you that I can count on a single hand how many truly great RP experiences I’ve had. Nowadays I enjoy light and casual RP, which can sometimes become more steamy of course, but overall I get my kick out of interacting with tinies pretending you guys are really only a few inches tall, that sort of thing.

But yeah, I’m thinking it’s something I’ll never really want to stop completely, and being transparent about it is part of the things I want to change in future relationships. You’re asking really good questions to ponder, like playing characters (mine or other ppl’s ) vs myself.

Argh, sorry everyone, I didn’t meant for this thread to become yet another public introspection, hehe.

I was taking a trip down memory lane earlier today on the archived version of the old Minimizer forum, and beside being amazed at how much was available (including old threads by yours truly!), I came upon something I remembered from back in the days:

The question is simple enough : Can role-playing sizey scenarios online be considered cheating?

If you had asked me back in 2008, I would have said “yes”, without a doubt. I didn’t even RP that often, but the guilt I felt, the way I hid my online activities and the shame I had whilst trying to hopelessly “cure” myself of this kink gnawed at me from the inside. My partner deserved better, yet I was stuck in this loop from not being able to tell her about my kink.

Nowadays, I’d probably say “it depends”. If I told my girlfriend about my kink and she wouldn’t want to partake, I’d be fine with it as long as she understood I don’t have an “off” switch to my kink, and yes, role playing from time to time might happen. I think the key is being transparent about it, but I’m aware that this might not fly with every gals (and guys).

Opinions?

@giantmaneddie well I just finished that part and those were some amazing renders and a surprisingly emotional story, even if we already knew some bits.

She had found a caring, loving giant. Why can’t society leave them in peace?!

@Olo Hmm everything looks there but I can’t know for sure if anything has been removed. The most recent pieces are intact. I won’t pry too much but I did ask on her profile if everything was okay.

Good news, it seems her account is back although she hasn’t posted anything new yet.