Asexual Thoughts
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While I’ve had this fantasy for as long as I can remember, I’ve never really been much into the more sexual end of it. Gentle interactions and fear/comfort dynamics always fascinated me more. Imagining a moment of pure tenderness is usually the ‘peak’ of what I look to get out of my daydreams on an emotional level. There can be some less gentle scenarios that turn me on - but if it involves genitals, I instantly nope out. Not for any puritanical reason, it just wasn’t my thing. Even in reality, I don’t have an interest in sex, which admittedly is probably why. I understand intimacy in this fantasy is a big part of the appeal of it for many people and I understand why. I don’t think there’s a wrong way to enjoy this fantasy, but I was just curious if anyone else here happened to feel the same way. Anyone else like this? And likewise, what does it feel like to be into the more physically intimate side of things?
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@Calypsa not personally but it is a interesting take on the fetish as long as I’ve been it I’m always delighted when there’s a new take on it
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@The-Big-G I’m glad! And yeah, I get that it’s probably an outlier take, but it’s cool to hear other people’s opinions on it.
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Ah, another for the ‘Ace but weirdly and deeply into a really kinky fetish you probably can’t ever explain to anyone normal camp’. Welcome!
Yeah, I’m not quite the exact same as you, I like all the girly bits, and dicks are… ugh. Not interested, but good/tolerable in limited quantities? How they’re used to present the women?
I’ve never really had any interest in sex, but I feel like, in some way, I grew out of even my fetish-y interest in sex? The power dynamics and relationships and so on interest me, and the sex is general just kind of folded in there (not even getting into the 'are women even into this??? that gets in my head at times).
Regardless, these days I’m more interested in cuddling and actually sleeping together, though I figure at least part of that is the all consuming exhaustion thing.
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I’m not asexual, but I was exclusively into non-sexual size content for a very long time until maybe this last decade or so (I’m now in my mid-30s for a bit of context). A few of us here still lean towards a preference for non-sexual stuff or, at the very least, don’t require bits to be bumped. Size difference itself is not really sexual to me, but more of an allegorical platform that suits me just fine.
Personally, I’ve always liked scenarios where there is interaction between giant and tiny; with at least one of them being aware of the size discrepancies between them. There doesn’t have to be intentional intimate or romantic relationship between them (though still very welcome), because that interaction is inherently intimate (not sexual) to me and gives me those wonderful fluttery little butterflies in my stomach. These days, I’m less repulsed by sexual scenarios and have dabbled in creating stories and drawings myself - frankly, they’re like an MA or R-rated extension to the fluffy stuff I like anyway.
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@i-am-insane Same! That’s crazy, I feel like you spoke my mind on every point. It definitely can get weird and confusing to make sense of all the sub-fantasies within this one, but at a certain point, I think it’s best to just let yourself enjoy whatever comes naturally. And despite the occasional wandering thought, at the end of the day, I really just want a gentle giant to cuddle into and be sweet with. I can at least appreciate the symbolism of size difference sex though- the power imbalance, the vulnerability, the inevitability of what’s coming. The shock factor alone is pretty intriguing to explore, even if it’s not really my interest.
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@Calypsa
Honestly, a lot of what I’m interested in is usually a subversion of the classic SW tropes: she shrinks, but she’s into it before the man is, or actively did it to herself. I’m growing, but she’s doing to me, or is the one who is excited about it.I like… the push pull, where both sides have some levers on the other, even if it’s just on emotional manipulation or something, making both ends of the equation active, if unequal, actors. If it’s just the basic ‘bigger person grabs smaller one, sex’, it’s… bland, almost? The situation, the relationship, that dynamic, flavors it.
In the same way, I’m interested in levels of dehumanization, but it can go too far, because it’s the fact that they are people that make it so interesting. If you reduce the woman to just an object, so much of what makes everything special is gone; it’s like you’ve replaced a gem with a Christmas light.
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@i-am-insane I agree, the idea that it’s two people of equal dignity rubbing up against each other in this fundamentally unfair way is what heightens all the emotions for me: the sense of wonder, the degradation, etc. Learning how to navigate that new sort of dynamic presents so many opportunities to explore growing closer to the other than would normally be possible.
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@miss-lillipants Emotional or psychological intimacy definitely takes priority for me too. It’s fascinating how something non-sexual can still give you such a rush.
