Asexual Size kinkers, what are your struggles?
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Hello, this is my first post so it won’t be perfect. I am very grateful for this space where I can openly talk about my fetish. I am an asexual macrophile. Asexuality is when you don’t feel the need to have sex. And while I am ok with looking at nude pictures, the idea of having sex repulses me. My fetish entirely emotional based rather than sex based. What appeals to me about macrophilia is the tension of being with someone way bigger than you. I am not sure if I could be looking in the wrong places, but a lot of the pictures I found tend to focus more on sexual aspect of the fetish. Are there any asexual macrophilia and microphiles on this site who want to share about their experiences being asexual with a size fetish?
My size may be small, but my will is bigger than y’all
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I’m on the ace spectrum myself. I’d say some people who are asexual see it more as not finding others sexually attractive vs not feeling the need to have both, and both of those are correct. It’s such a broad umbrella term.
I’m somewhere on the demi/greyace spectrum (meaning I’ve experienced sexual attraction with a person I’ve had a very deep connection with before but that connection has to be there). And I think thats a part of why this community feels to me. So much of the content I found was really fantastic relationships that took an incredible amount of trust for the tiny/giant to form a bond. There’s a delicate balance that needs to be found in those relationships. And that sense of safety too that first drew me in with being in a giant’s hands/incredibly special feeling of being the object of someone’s affection who is so much bigger than you. The increased emotional intimacy is what does it for me I think.
It’s a difference I’ve noticed a lot from the time I was in the giantess community (women’s bodies just felt so overtly sexualized there that even when I found more of those gentle stories, it didn’t feel like a natural build of attraction) versus in the giant community. Sure there is some of the same type of content, but I find it easier to find that deep bond building when its a giant man and a tiny vs a giant woman and a tiny.
Sometimes I can find it hard to relate to people in this community, but there are still a lot of people who love fluff, and even those who don’t tend to be respectful. In some ways I find it a bit easier to be open about my sexuality in a kink community like this because people are generally more primed on a broad spectrum of things.
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Speaking as someone who definitely comes to size fantasy via the sexual aspect, I love size fluff and I’m very happy to see size content that celebrates nonsexual trust, vulnerability, and protection. Asexual size content and discussions are welcome and wanted here.
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There are plenty of asexual person’s in the size community, remember that size fantasy is in fact a fantasy, fantasies can be romantic, sensory, adventurous, frightening and in the case of people like me, sexual.
The kinky ones like me can perfectly appreciate the non-sexual aspects of our fantasy. It may just change the way we perceive it. When the erotic aspect is removed from it, my mind tends to slide from modern scenarios to magical or sci-fi settings. From a enchanted forest to giant cosmic monsters. I’m currently a HUGE fan of Shingeki no Kyojin, but I don’t mix it with my horny side.
As long as you’re here for giants and tiny women, this is the place for you.
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@TakoAlice8 said in Asexual Size kinkers, what are your struggles?:
I am not sure if I could be looking in the wrong places, but a lot of the pictures I found tend to focus more on sexual aspect of the fetish.
I’m not asexual, but am very sympathetic to this as my tastes have changed over the years. Whilst the content posted on this forum is primarily geared towards the sexual side, it’s not like it’s compulsory. To some people (I daresay a lot, if not most), there is far more to this fetish/fascination/interest/trope than sex, like @tinyborrower has highlighted (which btw is -chef’s kiss- ). I hope you feel comfortable to continue to share your thoughts, tastes and perspectives here
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I’m not asexual but wanted to add to the chorus that you’re welcome here! It’s definitely a kink for me but honestly, I think my love of the fantasy is MOSTLY not sexual at all. Most of the artists I follow on DA are entirely SFW, there’s so much great stuff out there. I love fluff, friendship, adventure and just the emotional repercussions of the size difference. And even if I do really love romance and/or power play within a big/small relationship, I need to be in the right mood for the actual sex stuff.
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@tinyborrower I like your take on the fetish, having to build a deep bond with the giant. I do think that giantesses’ bodies also feel more over sexualized to me. There is a huge emotional intimacy that pictures of size differences cause in general. I also have more of that intimacy with male ones rather than female ones too.
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@littlest-lily I don’t have an account on DA, but I checked out your DA. Your drawings are really beautiful and adorable, I love how you draw the hands of the characters. I also love your stories too, they evoke a lot of emotion and have rich description. I do also check out the artist you followed like you mentioned, they have some really good stuff too.
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@miss-lillipants Thank you for your sympathy. I do agree that there is more to size than sex. This is probably why size appeals to so many including myself. Size scenarios truly have a lot of potential.
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@Technomage Thank you, this community has been very inviting for me. Yes size settings do evoke more than just sex. They evoke lots of emotions too. I am very grateful for how accepting this community is. Thanks to people like you.
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I’m both asexual (I’m… somewhere on that spectrum; I glanced once or twice, but I never really looked into where, exactly, I fell into it) and in the fetish end of the fetish.
I’ll admit, it’s been strange, at times. So much of this can be a deliberately sexual thing, and, while I started off not really getting the sexual end, and while I still deeply like and crave the more wholesome end of it, to me SW is a very much something sexual for me… Which. Is odd, considering how I’ve never had sex, or dated, or anything, and never plan to. And yet I enjoy the stories focusing on sex and relationships the most, to the point where I’ve written one where sex is a heavy focus.
Trying to bridge these two extremes has been uncomfortable at times, but I’ve got to admit that the SW community (I’ve never been in the GTS end, and what I’ve seen and heard has scared me off) has been absurdly welcoming. Honestly, the community has felt like it’s just been happy to have me here, even if I didn’t do anything, or contribute any content, just because we all this share this one connection.
Power is choice.
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@Olo I too accept people who like the sex side of size scenarios. I celebrate all size scenarios no matter how gross they may seem to people outside the size community. No size scenerio is ever seen as gross. Thank you for being accepting asexuals of the size community.
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@i-am-insane I hope you know that if you think your on the ace spectrum, you don’t have to have a label for your asexuality or your sexuality in general. Sexuality is complicated.
I do also crave the more wholesome end of size scenarios. I also really like it in M/f scenarios where the bigger person is intimidating but not cruel. I also really like when the bigger person teases in M/f.
I am very glad the SW community has been welcoming towards you. What I have heard from other people’s experiences, the GTS community can be a bit toxic at times but not all the time.
