I mean, that’s absolutely a fetish in a general sense. I might even say it’s common, even, considering what I know about female erotic stories and the like. I’ve found an almost certainly female author making stories about women cheerfully getting mind fucked into someone just as powerless to resist their owners as a shrunken women is, and a sort of shared universe literally called ‘Human Domestication Guide’, where the main characters are made into obedient pets by invading, well meaning aliens, so… yeah.

If you’re into it, willing, and consenting, then it’s not ‘unwilling’ in the meaningful, rape-y sense, which is rather the point where that gets awkward, morally. Hell if it’s just a story or a fantasy, then there’s no one real at all to be concerned about, and RPs aren’t real (unless you’re actually shrinking? 😏 ) so even if a ‘giant’ ‘steps on you’ you’re not actually getting stepped on by a giant foot, so… what’s the harm?

Honestly, I’ve always found it more concerning the other way around, since then you’re actually doing the wrong thing. The same logic applies there, of course, but I’ve always had problems emotionally accepting the logic about my own desires, so it’s not like I don’t get what you’re talking about.

@Olo said:

Jude Doyle goes into much greater detail and has some important insights here.

This Is How You Lose the Sex Wars

Trying to pick a pathway through forty years of the ugliest conflict in feminism.

This is a nice reflection and really highlights the complexities of reconciling seemingly very polarised perspectives. It’s possible, and I think a lot of people overthink it. But also very difficult especially with so much distraction (sometimes intentional, sometimes not) from larger systemic issues, and social contexts constantly in flux.

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@TakoAlice8 oh yeah, it’s hard not to think about skyscraper sized dudes when walking through a crowded city. It’s a great reference point for my imagination.

@tiny-ivy said:

A jar just traps a tiny, but it gives them no privacy and no coziness. It’s not shelter. It’s a prison, fit for a mere object or for a curiosity.

Yup, jars are for callous-to-cruel custodians.

However, I get the need to be able to see your tiny at all times. Might I suggest a terrarium? It can be furnished, including separate areas for watering, feeding, and toileting.

My ideal setup would have the terrarium on an extendible bookshelf that can be rolled back inside the shelving unit with a retractable front panel when concealment is necessary. When extended, the terrarium would be next to my desk chair with the top level with my desktop so I could keep an eye on her/them while I work.

@Olo proves that men are generally worse people especially tiny men. You never see that from women

@Olo I don’t know if this actually works as the longer version, but I think I might vibe with something along the lines of “shrunken woman lovers.” I dunno, for me personally, “shrunken womanizer” feels like it applies more to the person wanting to shrink the women and possibly excludes the shrunken women themselves? But I’m also putting waaay more thought into it since you asked (and I might be getting overly sensitive about having felt kinda excluded from certain SW spaces in the past) - I don’t know if I have that much of a preference.

And I need to hop on Bluesky at some point it sounds like! I never got Twitter and the more time passed the more I felt it might be foolish to do so. 😅

@Olo All that it takes is a can-do attitude. Oh, and growth serum 👍

@foreverlurk said in What's it Like?:

Seriously I need a weekly podcast with a different tiny lady every episode talking about these topics lol

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@Olo Ohh my bad! I saw the two interact but after I posted that I realized that tiny-taker was referring to it as their survey so I got very confused lol. With all the recent reblogs bringing it back up I’m hoping lilegite’s survey data crops up soon~

@Jötunn that’s very kind of . thank you! . I actually haven’t made a tutorial. There are so many good artists out there . Not sure if it would help 😅

Half the fun of this fetish is the creativity: it’s easy to hold them, easy to touch them however. But making them like it?

It probably stems from it, I’m frickin miniscule for a guy my age from my area and wish I was not this small.

I totally agree with this sentiment. Enough with the giant woman trope… I want myself a tiny woman stat

This isn’t related to roleplaying or size stuff specifically, but I would disagree with the idea that cheating is the point when you romantically desire someone else more than your partner. The thing about desire is that it’s not really something we can consciously control. I think it’s very unrealistic to expect that you will never see or encounter anyone who seems more desirable to you than your partner in some way, especially considering that there are eight billion people on this planet. What are the odds that the person you chose to build a relationship with is going to always and indefinitely be the most desirable person in the world to you? Very, very low. Plus people change, and relationships change over time, so you can’t expect desire to remain absolutely constant. That’s why long-term relationships are based on commitment and not on desire alone. That’s why it used to be so hard to get a divorce: it was meant to deter married people from abandoning their commitments just because they were having a bad day or a bad year, or because they saw a hot person in a bar and became infatuated.

I think there’s a world of difference between desire and action. I might hate my boss, and I might desperately want to wring his neck, but does that make me a murderer or a violent person? No. I’m not guilty of violence unless I act upon my desires, or unless I start making a plan to hurt my boss and I intend to follow through on that plan. When desire turns into action or serious intention, that’s when the line has been crossed. It’s the same way with cheating or with other “crimes.” Desire alone does not equal guilt.

Desire is involuntary, but action is voluntary. Action is something you can control, but desire is generally outside of your control…that’s the key difference. Why am I harping on this? Partly because I don’t want anyone to beat themselves up for something they can’t control. I don’t want anyone to beat themselves up for having perfectly natural and understandable desires that every human has. But the other reason is that I don’t want to see anyone use desire as an excuse. If you believe that having certain desires automatically makes you guilty, then it’s easier to rationalize certain behaviors to yourself. You might think, “I’m already guilty of cheating, because I desire someone else more than my partner…therefore I might as well do what my desires tell me to do, since I’m guilty either way!”

@i-am-insane I like that. I get to be close to him all day long and it’s the prefect spot to be ignored